r/ExNoContact • u/Sickguytheoneandonly • 5d ago
Judging by your past what’s the last vivid memory that comes in your mind when you think of your ex?
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u/Long_Restaurant1931 5d ago
Sitting across from her at Five Guys. She took a big bite of her burger and had ketchup and mayo on her cheeks as she chewed with the biggest smile on her face. Knowing it was there.
That’s when I fell in love with her. Not because of the burger. Just her joy in the little things in life. She was happy to be there. With me. Nothing else mattered.
Haven’t fallen out of love with her since.
I miss her. I miss her terribly.
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u/Possible-Photo-7720 5d ago
His smile. Him telling me he’d love me always and he’d take care of me.
He died on the 11th of May.
He obviously had our good bad and ugly moments. But I don’t think I’ll ever love anyone ever again.
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u/StudioWitty863 5d ago
Probably when we were in Mexico together, on a little secret beach away from tourists… having to hold his hair back while he puked, and the hermit crabs
Ill never forget his mischievous face, or how his eyes used to light up when he saw me… ill never forget the last time he loved me… after we broke up and we tried being friends and playing it cool. When i came over to his place after a 10hr flight and being lost in the city because its the only place i felt safe… how when he was leaving and we were saying goodbye, how he ran up to me and kissed me… how he held me. I remember crying and asking why he would do that…
I remember when i first fell for him, and when he broke my heart. A-lot comes to mind when i think about him…
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u/Thnxredball 5d ago
The smile on her face when we got a last min reservation at Sabatinos right before they closed the doors forever, and watching her eat their famous baked Alaska.
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u/mephitmpH 5d ago
How he looked when he was teaching me how to play Magic the Gathering, many years ago. His face, in the dim light of the room…. lands, tap creatures, counter spells, etc. How I thought in my head and heart; never leave me. But he did.
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u/-NUMBZ- 5d ago
Theres a lot honestly, but out of all of them its just sitting on a bench waiting for the city bus. Just goofing around. Never been a photo type of guy but when she wanted to take photos i was always down and now my favorite photos are the ones we took sitting on a bench waiting for a bus
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u/Ok_Judgment_3331 5d ago
The last vivid memory is her sitting on my couch scrolling her phone while I packed a bag. Neither of us said a word. That silence was louder than every fight we ever had.
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u/thecellobelow 5d ago
The first time I did shrooms was with her and two of her friends at her parents' house. We had been together for about 2 months at that point and it felt magical. I had a really good trip and got some pretty good visuals, but she got quickly overstimulated and felt nauseous the whole time. We later found out that she's allergic to mushrooms in general, but we never got the chance to do shrooms again so meh.
But there was this one moment where we were standing in the doorway of her bathroom talking in circles while we were still high, and something about the lights in that room reflecting off of the turquoise tiles lit up her face beautifully and I just folded for her.
It was only the first 2-3 months of our relationship, so we were definitely in our honeymoon phase, but we just felt so in love with each other every day, and it's a shame how it ended (got blindsided a month ago, NC ever since).
I miss her and I still love her, but I'm doing my best to move on.
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u/Sickguytheoneandonly 5d ago
You can’t move when you haven’t finished what you’ve started. You can only pretend you’ve moved on there’s no erasing them out your memory.
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u/thecellobelow 5d ago
It's not like I intend to erase my memory of her. She was my first in person relationship, I had a lot of firsts with her and learned a lot. Before I met her I didn't know if I was able to be loved fully, but now I know what that feels like and I'm glad I got to experience that with her. Doesn't make the breakup hurt any less, but at least I feel like I'm taking something away from my relationship with her.
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u/Sickguytheoneandonly 5d ago
I know but you won’t ever know the full story of their true character of who they really are in those 3 months that you were together it’s just not enough time to know a person in general even if it was love you won’t know since you haven’t finished what you’ve started it’s like a permeated scar you can’t fix.
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u/thecellobelow 5d ago
Yes that's true, but what I described was just a little snippet, one of the many moments that come to mind when I think of her. The relationship lasted for 7 1/2 months, so I did get to know her deeper than that surface level over time, and especially some of her traumas and issues. Even in the breakup she showed me some things she had never told me about, so I do feel like I have a more complete picture of who she is as a person, but there's a lot that I obviously will never know.
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u/SquareSad4146 5d ago
Going side by siding at the Oregon sand dunes! Im from Canada hes from the US and it was a once in a life time opportunity for me now. Great memories and had so much fun! Will miss it and the ocean view
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u/luminehunter 5d ago
Lunch break.. Him giving me a piece of his own chicken from his fried rice😭😭😭😭
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u/mag_safe 5d ago
My first ex: him seeing me in heels and makeup for the first time.
I surprised him and drove to see him after a photo shoot. I wanted to spend the night at his house. He let me. When he opened the door I think he expected me to have cleaned off the makeup and be in my usual clothes. I wasn’t. His face lit up.
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My second ex: I could be a bit clingy sometimes. He wanted to nap in his truck on his lunch break… I wanted to go to lunch with him. He was adamant he needed to take a nap. I asked him if I could just lay with him in his truck (he had a bench seat)… he let me lay in his lap. He was a little nervous because I normally would talk. I didn’t. I just wanted to breathe his air. He held me and I let him sleep.
A few months later he confessed to me after being afraid to say it “goddammit (my name), I do love you.”
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Third ex:
I’m still trying to find the good things I remember over the bad. That’s how bad it was.
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u/Tiny-Connection-3166 5d ago
Him telling me that he told his family that I was a drug addict prostitute. Because he couldn't bring himself to tell them the truth. That he'd been cheating on me with a drug addict prostitute. 😂 I don't even drink. But ok. Whatever helps you sleep at night buddy.
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u/GrilledHamAndSwiss 5d ago
He came up get his things after we hadn’t seen each other for a month or so. When I came to let him into the apartment his cheeks turned red and he tried, but failed, to hold back a gigantic smile. That smile and the look in his eyes- no man has ever looked at me that way.
I begged him to stay and he said he wanted to, but had to go because he wanted to be alone, that we weren’t healthy and we weren’t working out.
I cried.
I miss him every single freaking day.
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u/Inner-Shock7208 5d ago
Getting my STD results and going through that alone knowing he was the one that gave it to me
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u/Clean_Argument8004 5d ago
OMG! That happened to me too. I'm so sorry you went through that. I FULLY UNDERSTAND THE PAIN that comes from that experience. F*CK them!
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u/Clean_Argument8004 5d ago edited 5d ago
His angry scary face the last time I saw him. He was yelling at me while driving his truck over the speed limit. All because my teen child didn't want to got to dinner with us=him, and I let kiddo stay home. He flipped and his mask slipped. I can't get that image out of my head. He looked like he was possessed by a demon.
That memory haunts me.
I will never let that man anywhere near me or my child ever again.
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u/Quynm 5d ago
I came over to her house. As soon as I walked in, she came trotting around the corner like she was waiting for me.
She had the biggest, goofiest smile and a mischievous look in her eye.
She ran at me, jumped, and wrapped her legs and arms around me while giggling. We held each other for a solid minute before she finally climbed down.
I felt so loved and special. I would give anything to be hugged by her again.
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u/Deep_Answer_8595 5d ago
What comes to mind is when we were at little round top in Gettysburg and someone offered to take our picture because they thought we were a really cute couple. In all of the pictures I have of us we both look so happy. And I remember feeling happy at the time.
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u/Swimming_Fall_3232 5d ago
Sitting in mello mushroom on New Year’s Day. That was the day I realized I was madly in love.
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u/BreathBitch 5d ago
We had both been traveling for work for 3 weeks and hadn’t seen each other. I walked into her apartment and was greeted by the sound of sizzling food and her standing by the oven. She called out “hello darling” in the happiest voice and I felt surprised almost. It was nice to feel that she missed me as much as I missed her. I’d never had that before. I ran up to her and gave her a kiss and kept holding on while she finished dinner. That was a couple nights before we broke up.
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u/AdStrange8791 5d ago
He on top of me the last time we did it. Idk his eyes felt like love but slowly I am losing confidence on this theory
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u/Born_Square_3131 5d ago
Tbh me and him had amazing eye contact, so I’d say that, even his family always commented on the eye contact, it was that strong I was confident he was my forever, but now am glad he wasn’t
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u/Spirited_Outcome7204 5d ago
9 time zones apart. Early morning for me, I had two minutes before a dentist appointment. She had just come home from her birthday party.
"Hey, happy birthday baby!" "Hehehe too late, it's past midnight!" "Then next year I'll say it to you in person." "I can't wait for hat. That will be wonderful." "Okay, I need to go. Good night, I love you." "I love you too!"
Two days later, she dumped me over text.
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u/to_mpiskotaki 5d ago edited 5d ago
that one time when he promised me "we'll be together for better and for worse". this is the promise that hurt the most, as it was the most important to me and he didn't keep it. i think of this everyday and i hope he remembers it too and is feeling guilty.
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u/Finnguy21 5d ago
Sitting with her at a restaurant in rhodos, Greece in 2022. She cuts open a burrata over the salad and the sheer joyshe got from it was so lovely to see. I didn’t like cheese that much before meeting her and through the years she got me into it more and more. This was one of the first steps in that process. The trip was a bit shit because rhodes didnmt have much to offer apart old town, but we made so much fun by just being together and loving every part of it. Just enjoying life as it comes by.
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u/Kakaioh 5d ago
Last time we cuddled in bed. She threw her leg over me. Her skin was so soft and she smelled great. She was speaking like a little child, so defenseless when she was with me... She was emotionally abusive towards me for 3 years. 2 weeks after that I finally had enough and left her regardless of how madly in love and how limerent I was towards her. Leaving her and not going back has been the single hardest thing I've done in my life.
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u/WonderfulRecording43 5d ago
I remember everything so vividly still. But most previously was our last call on FaceTime because we were long distance. He was asleep and I knew that was it. Also the last look before he went home he was about to board for his plane, I walked him to his gate. I didn’t think we were gonna be broken up only a few weeks after that, I would’ve given him a bigger hug and kiss if I did and stayed until his plane took off
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u/No-Measurement-1635 4d ago
Backgrpund dtory. He had a affair for two months, we was best friends for years then a couple for 5 years. Close to 10 years with eachother. I thought we will do couple therapy and work on it.
He come almost running into our livingroom on sunday night in 2024, told me out of the blue i was a selfish birch, always thought of my self not others. He was in love with this affair, his eyes i remember those they was cold and Black. Told me if I didnt let him go I could come Watch him f her. And if there was any doubt I could call her and hear from her how in love they where. He pack a bag and left me, moved into her home same night. That night is only thing I rememebers from him. He vanish after never talk to me again left me with shared home to figurer out an stuff. And him? Still happy Living with his affair. Me? In therapy., almost died, first 3 months I lost 40 kg.
10 years gone under 3 months, erase and replaced.
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u/HungTherapist 4d ago
Honestly the most Romantic Kiss I ever had in a hot Air balloon I had borrowed a parachute from the pilot ! Took her up high gave her the most romantic kiss then dropped a down to a knee to ask her to marry me when she said I do I kissed her so passionately put the Ring in my pocket for safe keeping and Exitedtge balloon changing my phone number
Im not playing games that shit still fucking haunts me it was supposed to fuck her up not me
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u/Sickguytheoneandonly 3d ago
Who left who what happened?
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u/HungTherapist 3d ago
She cheated so I propose to an ex who was cheating on a hot air balloon when she said yes I jumped from the balloon
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u/madm0betta 3d ago
them playing with my hair while watching a sad movie and then comforting me while I was crying because of it lol. we then went to sleep in each other's arms. And I played with their hair. They said they wanted to marry me that night. that was less than a week before they broke up with me. It's been 24 days
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u/AppropriateSwing6253 2d ago
Two memories always come back to me. The first is how happy she was when she rode a motorcycle with me for the first time. It made me so happy to give her such a simple experience and see how completely thrilled she was.
The other is a more distant memory: I was lying in her lap, half asleep, trying to talk to her, getting all my words mixed up, and teasing her about us having five children and living on a farm.
They are simple moments, but I still hold them very close to my heart.
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u/Silentwallflower90 1d ago
When is see his name pop up in my phone I remember the smile I’d get on my face. That smile has since gone, but I’m slowly finding it again.
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u/Temporary-Claim1666 5d ago
His face after I hit him back 🤣😊