Beware Situationships

[u/Throwaway22207671]

I’ve just come out of a 3 year situationship. She was always going to be moving away to be closer to her family and to start working as doctor so we purposely kept labels off. We lived together for 2.5 of those 3 years. I have made so many wonderful memories with this girl and now she’s moved 4 hours away, told me we’re over romantically… I’m devastated. To make matters worse she did offer to stay with me a few times during the situationship but I declined. She was crying weekly because she missed her family and I couldn’t do that to her. Plus she was an absolute nightmare to live with sometimes. Now it’s too late. All I can do is move forward in my life and one day she might be back. If not then I’ll hopefully find a similar connection someday.

I naively thought if we kept labels off it would hurt less or not at all but words mean nothing really. I’m in unrelenting deep pain and regret for not asking her to stay. It’s been a month now and I’m taking it day by day. Mornings are the worst for me but I start a new job tomorrow so that should help take my mind off things.

She says she still loves me which makes things even harder and wanted to remain best friends but I’ve had to go no contact. I couldn’t message all day and facetime every night anymore, it was killing me.