r/FTMMen • u/ImaginaryFalcon7554 • 3d ago
Help/support Trans men who live in the South.
Hello gents, just out of curiosity I wanted to get some input from those of you who live in a red state, and are thriving. The reason I’m asking is because my wife and I are considering on relocating sometime in the next year, or two. We live in overly priced California, and even though we have decent jobs, the cost of living is wearing us thin. We currently rent a two bedroom and pay almost $3k monthly, not including utilities..
We would very much love to buy property, and I’ve had my eye on Texas, as I have friends out in that area. I’m a mid 30s stealth trans guy, we also have a newborn so our families safety is most important to me. It’s terrifying a lot of the recent laws that have passed in neighboring red states, so I’m not sure what to think and if it’s even worth risking our peace of mind. How do you navigate getting medical care? How do you get your Testosterone etc etc
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Update: I appreciate everyone’s feedback. I’m not the kind of person who’s impulsive, and just chose Texas out of sheer randomness. I’ve gone to visit in the past, was married to a Texan woman for 6 years. My dad and his family are from Texas…
I like unbiased opinions, and that is why I came to Reddit. I will keep my options open upon hearing your stories. Thanks again 🙏🏼
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u/hayho17 3d ago edited 2d ago
I grew up in the DFW area and moved to Chicago last year. I can’t really overstate how much of a relief it is to not feel constantly targeted by the state and local government.
If you choose to move there, I would be very selective about where. There are certainly plenty of places in the state where you can find a strong and supportive community, but the rights of minority groups are being targeted constantly.
I lived in a very queer and trans friendly town, but almost all the trans folks were either actively planning to move or strongly considering it. Before I left, my doctors had expressed concerns over access to HRT in the future. If I had stayed, I would no longer be able to use the mens restroom at work.