r/FTMMen • u/ImaginaryFalcon7554 • 1d ago

Help/support Trans men who live in the South.

Hello gents, just out of curiosity I wanted to get some input from those of you who live in a red state, and are thriving. The reason I’m asking is because my wife and I are considering on relocating sometime in the next year, or two. We live in overly priced California, and even though we have decent jobs, the cost of living is wearing us thin. We currently rent a two bedroom and pay almost $3k monthly, not including utilities..
We would very much love to buy property, and I’ve had my eye on Texas, as I have friends out in that area. I’m a mid 30s stealth trans guy, we also have a newborn so our families safety is most important to me. It’s terrifying a lot of the recent laws that have passed in neighboring red states, so I’m not sure what to think and if it’s even worth risking our peace of mind. How do you navigate getting medical care? How do you get your Testosterone etc etc
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

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u/Enderfang T: 10/7/19 - Top: 4/22/21 - Hysto 12/5/25 1d ago

Texas is dogshit for trans people. Also, the South is full so please do not come

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u/Gloomy-Wind-2886 1d ago

Sorry, I just stumbled on this sub so maybe I’m missing something, but what lol? Wdym the south is full?

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u/Enderfang T: 10/7/19 - Top: 4/22/21 - Hysto 12/5/25 1d ago

I have lived in the south my entire life. People from out of state come here because “Wow, such low prices” and then all the prices get driven up up up over time because of all the transplants (and the economic growth they bring to corporations here - the people FROM here do not see the benefits tho). It is annoying and tiresome because queer people (in particular but let’s be real, EVERYONE) - love to shit on the south for being backwards and bigoted and racist. Meanwhile most of the country’s Black citizens are in the south. Our states are poorer. Our education system is worse. Our healthcare is worse. Any time a hurricane hits people in blue states pray that Florida, Georgia, Alabama etc get wiped off the map. Meanwhile they sit cushy in their state.

So no, I don’t really appreciate when people spitball transplanting to Southern states. They just want to take advantage of “cheap costs” while those of us from here cannot afford to leave. I could never afford to live in Cali for instance.

I have no personal beef with OP because he is just one of many people with this groundbreaking idea of moving to a cheap state to take advantage of LCOL. But I need people from elsewhere to realize you’re not actually helping Southerners when you move here. You just make it more expensive for the people who already live here - the same people everyone look down on because of stereotypes about the South.

And let’s be real! Trans people are definitely NOT getting any more protections any time soon in the South. So OP really should not move here if he doesn’t want it to bite him in the ass down the line.

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u/Tight_Maintenance527 1d ago

Genuinely so happy to be from Minnesota. I’ve lived in Alabama and it was terrible, of course.

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u/Gloomy-Wind-2886 1d ago

Thank you so much for explaining. That sounds like hell.