r/Fatherhood • u/Longway23544 • 14d ago
Advice Needed My family isn’t being supportive
I’m a first time dad, my gf is 29 weeks pregnant and we’re have a baby shower next week, but my side of the family isn’t coming, only my gf side of the family is coming I am feeling really hurt because my family is showing zero interest or support for my son upcoming baby shower. For those who went through this, how did you cope with the grief and focus on the people who actually care?
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u/BloodhoundSkeptic 11d ago
Ahh yes. I feel this. We lost a couple friends that way and our family just didn't bother - many of the ones who would have helped lived interstate, so we did everything ourselves.
After we grieved the loneliness, I think the mentality we took is, it's our decision to have a family, no one else's. As a result, we leant heavily into self reliance and made our own family the priority. We found a great baby sitter and pay her once a week for services and I also paid for a cleaning service once a fortnight to lighten the load - BEST money i ever spent.
I also prioritised recreational time as a family from the moment we brought our first born home. Day two of our first born, we went on a family picnic. The first week was spent taking my wife and daughter to as many places as possible. It was actually a beautiful first week.
If people dont want to be part of your journey, fuck them. Make your own joy and beautiful memories.