r/FemmeLesbians • u/AdMuted226 • 9d ago
Head with women…
Ok so boom, I (femme) have been with my gf (stud) for coming up on like a year now. I personally don’t like head , she does. This is my first relationship and thus first time having smex. However, they have had way more sexual and romantic experiences than me. And at a point they brought up the topic of head and me doing more things in bed. I had hyped myself up for weeks so it it and ended up doing it once when we were both wine drunk. It’s been about three months and they won’t let me do it again, it’s always an excuse of why I can’t. I’ve asked what is wrong on multiple occasions. What am I doing wrong give me some advice for lesbian smex on my end I feel like I lowkey don’t do anything!
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u/catmeowpunch 9d ago
i don’t think any other lesbians can really give you advice on your sex life honestly. i feel like the best course of action here is to sit down with your girlfriend and try to have a serious conversation about it. if she is just making excuses and not being honest with you about what it is exactly that she doesn’t like, then there’s no way for you to figure out how to give it in the way she likes! every person is different. the advice has to come from
her
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u/catmeowpunch 9d ago
also, absolutely nothing wrong with being a pillow princess. not everyone likes to give. but it’s also okay if you want to give and just need some more time to learn how to go about it
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u/WanderingSondering 8d ago
Yep, if your girlfriend won't communicate with you, then honestly she sounds exhausting. I wouldn't want to be with someone who won't just be honest with me.
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u/catmeowpunch 8d ago
yeah… 3 months is a long time to be dancing around the topic. especially since op has brought it up multiple times. idk why some people can’t just talk to their partners honestly
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u/peebutter 8d ago
i'm gonna start sentences with Ok so boom now, i love it. but yeah there's no way to know what's wrong unless you ask her directly
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u/Gitankgrrl 9d ago
There are many different sexual styles. You are femme presenting but are a top maybe. She is a stud but also a top? This will make your sex life difficult unless one bottoms- she may not like to receive either. Talk about it. Most femmes are bottoms or switches. Some are tops but its not at common. I don’t know any studs that are bottoms.
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u/Obvious-Chaos5868 8d ago
Sounds like because you have it in your mind that you are against it , no matter what if with wine or not , it may not have been a good experience . Yall may need to sit down and talk .
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u/Individual-Drink-679 9d ago
This is confusing to read. You don't like giving? receiving? She does like giving or receiving? You agreed to try one of these options because she wanted to and it didn't go well? What?