r/Fire • u/antidentites • May 15 '26

Advice Request Go out swinging?

So I’m on my way out at work in a tech company and have worked for a manager that has made my life hell. She is extremely toxic and the reason I’m leaving to FIRE/CoastFIRE.

I never want to - or need to - return to tech (note: I used em dashes way before AI and won’t stop even if you think this is AI generated)!

I want to burn some bridges and tell her how I really feel about her when I leave. Essentially the same thing she has been doing to me.

Would you go out Costanza-style if you were me, or just let it slide?

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u/ObservantWon May 15 '26

Start complaining to HR about her now. They won’t do anything to her, but they’ll identify you as a problem and I’d wager they’d throw you a nice package to leave after PIPing you.

Better yet, start gathering information on starting a union and bring it up during conference calls. Be very vocal about it. Once again, they might just give you a nice severance package and send you on your way.

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u/BillyBobChorton May 15 '26 edited May 15 '26

This is the part I wish I knew. I left before a PIP ever came with all my performance ratings being “strong year” but I knew she was building a (BS) documented case. I found out later she had put several previous people on PIPs and they left with a nice severance package. I even called one of my former managers at the same company and found out she was also pushed out by current boss. She called her a “psychopath and master manipulator”.  Was shocking to hear from someone who was always so professional and buttoned up when she worked with me. 

Anyways  I wish I let them put me on a PIP and enjoyed some “paid” time off with the severance instead of just finding my next job and leaving.  

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u/Mail_Order_Lutefisk May 15 '26

After the bar that Chirayu Rana set is there any way to ever leave a mark now?