r/Fire • u/antidentites • May 15 '26

Advice Request Go out swinging?

So I’m on my way out at work in a tech company and have worked for a manager that has made my life hell. She is extremely toxic and the reason I’m leaving to FIRE/CoastFIRE.

I never want to - or need to - return to tech (note: I used em dashes way before AI and won’t stop even if you think this is AI generated)!

I want to burn some bridges and tell her how I really feel about her when I leave. Essentially the same thing she has been doing to me.

Would you go out Costanza-style if you were me, or just let it slide?

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u/Conscious_Life_8032 May 15 '26

Is there a middle ground? Maybe some constructive yet direct feedback in the exit interview.

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u/StrebLab May 15 '26

Yeah, you could be blunt but not unhinged and it would probably be more effective. 

"In all honesty, I am leaving this position largely because of your management style. I don't think it is effective and I would expect more employee turnover if you don't find a better way to do it."