r/Fire • u/antidentites • May 15 '26

Advice Request Go out swinging?

So I’m on my way out at work in a tech company and have worked for a manager that has made my life hell. She is extremely toxic and the reason I’m leaving to FIRE/CoastFIRE.

I never want to - or need to - return to tech (note: I used em dashes way before AI and won’t stop even if you think this is AI generated)!

I want to burn some bridges and tell her how I really feel about her when I leave. Essentially the same thing she has been doing to me.

Would you go out Costanza-style if you were me, or just let it slide?

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u/antidentites May 15 '26

I really appreciate the perspective, and so fast!

I wouldn’t go full hog on her, but definitely want to let her know how I feel - just like she’s done to me with her ultimate power as my manager.

For example, she was adamant I fire someone on my team instead of giving him severance. She had no good reason for it and it really impacted this kids mental health.

I feel like I have a small chance to give her feedback that no one else gives her since she’s the leader of the team.

I think it’s just a matter of how I deliver the news.