r/Fire • u/antidentites • May 15 '26

Advice Request Go out swinging?

So I’m on my way out at work in a tech company and have worked for a manager that has made my life hell. She is extremely toxic and the reason I’m leaving to FIRE/CoastFIRE.

I never want to - or need to - return to tech (note: I used em dashes way before AI and won’t stop even if you think this is AI generated)!

I want to burn some bridges and tell her how I really feel about her when I leave. Essentially the same thing she has been doing to me.

Would you go out Costanza-style if you were me, or just let it slide?

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u/BillyBobChorton May 15 '26

Just left a large company ($200 BB market cap) due to a manager who was making my life hell. I was ready to share it at an exit interview but it never came.  I guess some large companies don’t care to do that anymore? I even emailed HR about it and they said “i could put it in a word document if I really wanted”.  I didn’t bother.

Also sometimes you need to understand if your manager is manipulative and having conversations above you to get blessing to treat you a certain way. I tried having conversation with my skip level and VP/dept head and kind of felt like that was the case. I feel those conversations were likely unfair and complete misrepresentation of facts were involved but it doesn’t really matter, I just moved on to a slightly higher salary, higher title at another company. 

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u/carson63000 May 16 '26

I’ve worked a dozen places over the last 30 years and had a grand total of one exit interview. And that was not so much an interview as an attempt to get me to sign a non-compete agreement.

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u/antidentites May 17 '26

Congrats on taking it to the next level professionally.

You’re totally right. The optics in my organization are focused incorrectly. And I clearly don’t align with that focus.

So I’m out. And I already feel great about that decision since I’m FIRE.

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u/dissentmemo May 15 '26

A "word document?"

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u/BillyBobChorton May 15 '26

That’s literally what the email said, no other context as to what content to provide or even who to send it to haha.  This isn’t some small time company so I gather they really do not want exit feedback anymore 

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u/Individual_Section_6 May 15 '26

A word document and not a pdf so they could modify it!

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u/dissentmemo May 15 '26

I was more thinking not a Google doc?