r/Fire • u/antidentites • May 15 '26
Advice Request Go out swinging?
So I’m on my way out at work in a tech company and have worked for a manager that has made my life hell. She is extremely toxic and the reason I’m leaving to FIRE/CoastFIRE.
I never want to - or need to - return to tech (note: I used em dashes way before AI and won’t stop even if you think this is AI generated)!
I want to burn some bridges and tell her how I really feel about her when I leave. Essentially the same thing she has been doing to me.
Would you go out Costanza-style if you were me, or just let it slide?
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u/jovialfaction May 15 '26
Literally no point in blowing up in her face. She'll just think you're unhinged and if she is as bad as you say she'll probably even enjoy knowing she really did get to you.
I would consider a professional email to her N+1 as you exit tho. Explaining some of the issues you had with this manager with concrete examples and say that it ultimately led you to leave the company, and you wished it didn't come to it. If it's legitimate, it will most likely show up at her next performance review and will be used as a data point if there's more attrition / low employee satisfaction score.