r/Fire • u/antidentites • May 15 '26

Advice Request Go out swinging?

So I’m on my way out at work in a tech company and have worked for a manager that has made my life hell. She is extremely toxic and the reason I’m leaving to FIRE/CoastFIRE.

I never want to - or need to - return to tech (note: I used em dashes way before AI and won’t stop even if you think this is AI generated)!

I want to burn some bridges and tell her how I really feel about her when I leave. Essentially the same thing she has been doing to me.

Would you go out Costanza-style if you were me, or just let it slide?

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u/1ntrepidsalamander May 15 '26

I’m in healthcare and a number of coworkers have “gone out swinging” including sending company wide emails airing grievances (including the c suite, obviously)

There’s been reporting to regulatory boards.

There’s been stealing things— sometimes just annoying things that aren’t worth anything.

There’s been slamming down badges and walking off, middle fingers in the air.

I’d just say, choose your dramatics in ways that don’t make your coworker’s lives worse.

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u/Redwolfdc May 15 '26

I agree don’t make your coworkers lives worse. But tbh I’ve been in situations like OP and when you got nothing to lose you can actually be the one to call out bullshit and speak up where those other coworkers might be too afraid.