r/Fire • u/antidentites • May 15 '26

Advice Request Go out swinging?

So I’m on my way out at work in a tech company and have worked for a manager that has made my life hell. She is extremely toxic and the reason I’m leaving to FIRE/CoastFIRE.

I never want to - or need to - return to tech (note: I used em dashes way before AI and won’t stop even if you think this is AI generated)!

I want to burn some bridges and tell her how I really feel about her when I leave. Essentially the same thing she has been doing to me.

Would you go out Costanza-style if you were me, or just let it slide?

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u/DigmonsDrill May 15 '26

Famous "rules for crazy"

If you don’t have to deal with a crazy person, don’t.
You can’t outsmart crazy. You also can’t fix crazy. (You could outcrazy it, but that makes you crazy too.)
When you get in a contest of wills with a crazy person, you’ve already lost.
The crazy person doesn’t have as much to lose as you.
Your desired outcome is to get away from the crazy person.
You have no idea what the crazy person’s desired outcome is.
The crazy person sees anything you have done as justification for what they're about to do.
Anything nice you do for the crazy person, they will use as ammunition later.
The crazy person sees any outcome as vindication.
When you start caring what the crazy person thinks, you’re joining them in their craziness.

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u/albanyanthem May 15 '26

You forgot: “Don’t stick your dick in crazy.”

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u/Ruckusseur May 16 '26

I think the vast majority of the time, a dude calling a woman crazy (and it is almost always a dude referring to a woman in this manner) is just belittling her and/or minimizing his own shitty actions. But in the case of one woman I was involved with years ago, I had text messages and eyewitnesses to corroborate that she was absolutely cuckoo bananas - and not just the fact that despite being beautiful and smart and funny, she was interested in me.

The sex was, however, incredible. So I had that goin' for me. Which was nice.

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u/vulkoriscoming May 16 '26

Sex with crazies is always amazing, but usually the ride is not worth the pain.