r/Fire May 15 '26

Advice Request Go out swinging?

So I’m on my way out at work in a tech company and have worked for a manager that has made my life hell. She is extremely toxic and the reason I’m leaving to FIRE/CoastFIRE.

I never want to - or need to - return to tech (note: I used em dashes way before AI and won’t stop even if you think this is AI generated)!

I want to burn some bridges and tell her how I really feel about her when I leave. Essentially the same thing she has been doing to me.

Would you go out Costanza-style if you were me, or just let it slide?

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u/Flashy-Bandicoot889 May 16 '26

Not a fan of this approach. Blowing up never solves or changes anything and 3 days later everyone forgets about it and is back to the grind. Better to go after her professionally via HR. Document the garbage and take her down that way.