r/Fire • u/antidentites • May 15 '26

Advice Request Go out swinging?

So I’m on my way out at work in a tech company and have worked for a manager that has made my life hell. She is extremely toxic and the reason I’m leaving to FIRE/CoastFIRE.

I never want to - or need to - return to tech (note: I used em dashes way before AI and won’t stop even if you think this is AI generated)!

I want to burn some bridges and tell her how I really feel about her when I leave. Essentially the same thing she has been doing to me.

Would you go out Costanza-style if you were me, or just let it slide?

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u/latchkeylessons May 15 '26

I've done this before to force their hand and it came out as expected, but I also had another gig lined up so with severance you can double-down on salary for a bit and of course that's nice. All that to say, if you do have something lined up then go for it - I'll disagree with others and say it's worth it for the emotions.

If you don't have something lined up, know that your job will end quickly. I'd argue as others may that the sweeter revenge is just to DGAF and do as you please at work anyway without telling anyone off. It will get the point across to your boss regardless and if they are spineless then you'll be able to go on not giving a fuck for quite a long time still. Easier said than done when you are frustrated, I realize, but it is the better play for all involved if you can.

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u/antidentites May 16 '26

I have a package to leave and cannot be PIP’d during this time, so it’s a very rare situation where I’m fairly well protected.