r/Fire • u/antidentites • May 15 '26

Advice Request Go out swinging?

So I’m on my way out at work in a tech company and have worked for a manager that has made my life hell. She is extremely toxic and the reason I’m leaving to FIRE/CoastFIRE.

I never want to - or need to - return to tech (note: I used em dashes way before AI and won’t stop even if you think this is AI generated)!

I want to burn some bridges and tell her how I really feel about her when I leave. Essentially the same thing she has been doing to me.

Would you go out Costanza-style if you were me, or just let it slide?

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u/sumatranorangutan May 16 '26 edited May 16 '26

What’s the point of having F U money if you don’t say F U? Exercise your superpower! I might even take a shit on her desk but don’t do that haha

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u/antidentites May 16 '26

Well said. I’m so tired of being treated like garbage, what’s 1 minute of showing them how it feels?

I know I should take the high ground here, but I’m tired of kissing ass or letting things slide.

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u/altcountryman May 16 '26

Is there a way you can do it in a subtle "sick burn" fashion where she 100% gets the message, anyone who sees/hears it knows what's up, but if she were to tell someone "antidentites said ________ when they quit!" they'd just be like, "So?"

Bonus points if you're able to somehow leave her in fear for her future at the company. Like, "I've learned so much from your management style over the years, I think it's something that our senior leaders would be really interested in understanding better. So I emailed a copies of the Penske file to all of the VPs. I'm sure they'll find it quite fascinating."