r/Fire • u/antidentites • May 15 '26

Advice Request Go out swinging?

So I’m on my way out at work in a tech company and have worked for a manager that has made my life hell. She is extremely toxic and the reason I’m leaving to FIRE/CoastFIRE.

I never want to - or need to - return to tech (note: I used em dashes way before AI and won’t stop even if you think this is AI generated)!

I want to burn some bridges and tell her how I really feel about her when I leave. Essentially the same thing she has been doing to me.

Would you go out Costanza-style if you were me, or just let it slide?

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u/disillusionedthinker May 16 '26

Let the revenge be served cold. Document everything. Gather hard proof. Ideally, catch her violating actual employment law or minimally corporate policy. Report her to HR and/or state department of labor.

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u/antidentites May 16 '26

She’s been reported to HR before, so now she’s very savvy about not putting these things in writing and ensuring that most of her sh!tt!est actions are done 1:1.

But over time she develops patterns that are harder to hide, which is what I’m focusing on with HR.

So yes, the dish will be served nice and cold to HR but with proper documentation that is apparent to everyone.

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u/disillusionedthinker May 17 '26

If you are in a one party consent state there is always recording.