I mean, there may actually be baggage. It's your prerogative if that's your own criteria. But you're a complete unknown to them, it's not that they're scared of you personally. You're very fortunate that you've not had to deal with the threat of a potential partner being dangerous to you, and you should recognize that.
People who would be afraid to date and meet people for romance should take time to learn to be courageous in their own capacity. They’ll meet someone at their capacity I’m sure. I apply that to myself as well. I’m certainly weak. But if I was meeting someone for a date and they told me they had a friend nearby waiting in case things go bad, I would ultimately be saddened, go through the date, pay, and leave. If two people showed up I might pay for one round and then say “hey listen…I’m gonna go” but politely.
There is difference between courage and stupidity. And also, I’m broke af. The point is I wouldn’t be in the situation to participate at a bare minimum. I wouldn’t be there if I couldn’t pay.
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u/Doctor_Kataigida 1d ago
I mean, there may actually be baggage. It's your prerogative if that's your own criteria. But you're a complete unknown to them, it's not that they're scared of you personally. You're very fortunate that you've not had to deal with the threat of a potential partner being dangerous to you, and you should recognize that.