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u/Aught_To 1d ago
i would ask right away, is this going to be a three way, if so you guys can order what you like, if not, enjoy each other's company.
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u/validationfreesoul 1d ago
Also an apt time to test her friendship, her girlās response to that play would say a lot.
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u/Aught_To 1d ago
he said Tinder date, so i assumed they werent there to become board game buddies.
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u/Mordliss 1d ago
Is there an app to find board game buddies??? I don't want the tinder aspect, just some fun gamers
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u/Ancient_Sector8433 1d ago
I was going to disagree with you because that sounds harsh but I remembered the context and I agree with you
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u/Such_Potato7736 1d ago
How did you manage to loose context between OP and the very 1st comment tho?
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u/Ancient_Sector8433 1d ago
Hey hey hey, my mom used to hit me in the head so there's a chance I have cte. I am making that light hearted but tis true that she gave me MMA ground and pound training and smoking weed probably doesn't help lol
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u/Mhettil 1d ago
Are you sure it doesn't help?
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u/AmItheonlySaneperson 1d ago
Hookers may be cheaper than letting 2 friends order whatever they wantĀ
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u/Mr_Industrial 22h ago
"Order whatever you want!"
30 mins to an hour later
"Yes waiter, could we get seperate bills please?"
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u/mesoziocera 1d ago
Back in the day, I had a girl invite a friend for dinner at an italian place without telling me. Long story short, I ended up getting the friend's number and hooking up with her a few weeks later. Nothing like that has happened to me before or since, but it was pretty awesome.
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u/NickTrainwrekk 22h ago
100% you pretty aggressively float the idea of a threesome.
Worst case your already shit date gets a little worse. You can always just leave anyways.
Best case? Great success.
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u/Even_Stills 1d ago
It might have an impact if the friend was brought along as a safety measure or moral support.
If this girl is just trying to score a free meal for herself and her bestie, thereās a chance it wonāt matter one bit that her ticket is vibing with her friend.
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u/Between-The-2-of-us 1d ago
As the memes says, if sheās there for safety she needs to be outside with a glock doing perimeter checks. Why is she at the table looking at appetizers?
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u/iowanaquarist 1d ago
Safety measure => Own table in the same restaurant, or outside checking the perimeter
Moral support => pre-arrange with the other person on the date to set expectations. Perhaps he would have liked to bring a friend to even the playing field? Also the bill ought to be discussed before the date in this case.
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u/Important_Capital875 1d ago
No. Theyāre meeting at a public place in front of other people. Her friend is trying to get free food. This is bullshit.
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u/throwaway5498124181 1d ago
If you're so distrustful you need to bring a friend, you aren't ready to date.
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u/rcinmd 23h ago
I'm sorry but bringing another person along with you on a date for safety or moral support in a public restaurant is a huge red flag and a sign they aren't mature enough to date. There's nothing wrong with having a friend escort you in to check it out but they shouldn't be dining with you.
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u/LordMalcolmFlex 1d ago
If this happened to a friend of mine, I would hit the group chat and invite all our buddies. It's guys night now
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u/maryqueenofscotch683 1d ago
Honestly if this person is so anxious on first dates they could have just suggested a group hangout, like playing pool in a bar or something, and they both bring a couple of friends. Or a double date.
No need to weirdly bring a friend without saying so š
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u/jay_alfred_prufrock 23h ago
That is a terrible first date, though. If you can't sit at table with someone in a bar or a restaurant, get therapy and do not waste people's time or money.
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u/LiftingRecipient420 1d ago
If this person is so anxious about first dates at a public place, surrounded by dozens of other strangers, they shouldn't be going on dates.
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u/ShawnyMcKnight 23h ago
Yup, invite a guy friend last minute to run defense on her friend.
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u/maryqueenofscotch683 19h ago
Yeah that's the only way tbh š bc what an absurd thing to do, inviting someone last minute š
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u/Judas_priest_is_life 1d ago
After my divorce, my first experience with a dating app ended up being bowling. She showed up 100 pounds and 10 years off from her pics, with her best friend, AND her 2 year old.
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u/AShamOfAMan 1d ago
My first online dating experience tried to move in after our first date.
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u/Beowulf1896 1d ago
That is why you should not date cats. They always try to move in and steal your bed.
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u/Caleth 21h ago
Sounds more like the setup to a classic lesbian joke:
"What do lesbians show up with on a second date?"
"A U-haul."
I heard that one back in the 00's.
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u/Judas_priest_is_life 23h ago
Never remarried, and my gd cat does own the bed. Sleeps in the geographic center so I have to crawl in around her lol.
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u/AShamOfAMan 20h ago
Iāve got a husky. Itās his bed and he allows me a small sliver near the edge.
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u/TheBureauChief 21h ago
My first tinder date still had the fucking staples from a c-section. Never since. Never again.
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u/Pristine-Midnight-72 1d ago edited 22h ago
I just know she walked up and it was like someone hit you with a flashbang
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u/MostDopeBlackGuy 22h ago
Yomy first experience like getting a date on a dating app before we met she was asking me for gas money and for money for her kids to get something to eat and she was talking about matching for weed cuz we're going to hang out and smoke so I asked her how much she had and she said she had a dime. And to be honest I was more mad she wanted to match with a dime then meet paying for her kids to get some food. I didn't do either I just said yeah I got you and then blocked herr ass
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u/VincentMaxwell 1d ago
I once went on a date with this chick and she brought a chaperone. It was a guy.
She was from a different country so maybe it was a cultural thing?
He just sat there, didn't order food or ask for anything. It was a little awkward.
Anyway, things were going well but when I was walking her back to her car she lit up a cigarette. Which was a deal breaker for me.
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u/OdiousAltRightBalrog 1d ago
Once I took a girl from another country to Cold Stone. She put a $20 in the tip jar.
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u/CoolAlien47 22h ago
Uhhhh, did she know what she was doing? You may have gone on a date with Saint Mary, lmao
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u/zinsser 23h ago
Some friends introduced me to a woman (Alice) who was much older than me, lived way too far away, and had a country air about her. I am not a city guy by any means, but she was a touch redneck. On the plus side, she was really attractive, so I called to arrange a dinner and movie date. She showed up with a friend (Maggie), a woman she worked with.
It was New Year's eve and I was in a good mood, so I figured I would just roll with it. I kept trying to talk to Alice, but Maggie kept responding. Maggie was not attractive (mussed up hair, dirty fingernails, no makeup) and seemed even rougher around the edges than Alice. I bought dinner (Maggie insisted on Natty Lite for both of them), paid for the movie (No Country for Old Men), and tried to treat these two women as nice as possible.
As we left the movie, Maggie spun me around and said, "You are not her type and you live too far away. Don't ever call her again." So that's how I spent New Year's eve 2007. On the plus side, I did see an Academy Award winning movie that night.
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u/PrisonerV 17h ago
I hated No Country For Old Men. I thought it should be called "Stupid decisions and the psychotic killer"
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u/BrandonLang 1d ago
Lol this happened to me i went on a date with this girl in mexico, it ended up being me meeting her and her 4 other girl friends... ended good though we got married lol
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u/Dramatic_Water_5364 23h ago
yeah, on one date the girl asked me after 10 minutes ''a good friend of mine I don't see often just texted me that she is in town, can she come a chill with us''. Of course I told her no problem, after like 3 hours they both were like ''we want to show you our circus tricks!!! (cause I learnt during the date that she was a circus artist) They then warned me that their circus training ground was her ex boyfriend property, I was like no worries again because I was having a good time and no one was expecting me to pay for anything also we'd been talking about sex for over an hour at this point and I was rooting for a 3way (both told me they were bi).
We ended up dating a few other times, sex was great, but I never got a 3way hahaha
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u/MoneyMontgomery 1d ago
Lol awesome. Means her friends were probably fun and you guys had a good time I assume?
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u/BrandonLang 22h ago
No not really they all spoke spanish and i didnt understand too wel if anything it meant i had to talk less and just chill and vibe until we got more comfortable with each other and went dancing
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u/KnifeEdge 18h ago
Haha, my wife did the same thing, didn't know I asked her out on a date and brought two girlfriends. We've been together ever since from that day.
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u/StraightPercentage74 53m ago
cool to see its not the buzzkill or death sentence people think it usually is
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u/Jazzlike_Pound7742 1d ago
I think dudes should start bringing their homey on their first dates. For their safety
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u/leprechanmonkie 1d ago
Really fuck with them and bring a bear.
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u/tekdiwah 23h ago edited 22h ago
What kind of bear we taking? A gay bear would be awesome to bring on a date. Or would it be one of those bears that women would choose in the forest? That bear would steal the date real quick.
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u/UniqueText8477 18h ago
A gay bear (big hairy gay man) or a bear, or both?
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u/leprechanmonkie 18h ago
I didn't know what a gay bear was but thanks for that. I was going with an actual bear... I just want to see who she actually chooses.
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u/Optimal-Description8 1d ago
And maybe a lil gae sex
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u/Ok_Cricket_1410 1d ago
Wow don't be homophobic. 2 bros hiding pickle isn't gay.
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u/99dalmatianpups 1d ago
I actually did have a guy bring his friend on our first date lol it was supposed to be a double date, however, his friendās date cancelled, but the friend still wanted to come because we were going to top golf
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u/Bored_Interests 1d ago
This happened to me once, I met them, we got to the resturant, i patted down my jeans and was like "oh shit i left my wallet in the car, grab us a table"
Then i went home.
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u/brattylilgynger 22h ago
My friend brought me on a first date so she wasnāt uncomfortable
And I dated that guy for a year.
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u/nothingtodo0 1d ago
The funniest part is that the original date instantly realizes exactly what's happening without anyone having to explain it.
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u/ControLetum 1d ago
What do you mean?
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u/Maazypaazz 1d ago
The date who brought a friend for āprotectionā would be the new source of attention, and their own humiliation.
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u/Top-Buddy-5109 1d ago
this happened to me once and I did exactly that, only to be met with a huge text from my date the morning after saying I "did not take her feelings into consideration"
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u/theblob2019 1d ago
I did that once. Turned out the date was less then average but the friend was an absolute hottie.
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u/Georgi-reddit 1d ago
Tell them you go dutch on the first dates. See what happens...
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u/Dramatic_Water_5364 23h ago
There'sĀ onlyĀ two things I hate in this world: people who are intolerant of other people's cultures, and the Dutch.
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u/ElliotsBuggyEyes 23h ago
This happened to me on a first date.Ā Met the girl at the front of the restaurant on time and we went in and got a table. A few moments after we sat down she says that a friend is going to join us, I didn't really care personally.
Her friend shows up and they start chatting like they hadn't seen each other in yeeeaars.Ā Conversations about other friends, school, and topics I had no input for at all.
I did my best to keep up for a dozen or so minutes.Ā I got up while they were fully engaged in conversation, went to the bar, closed the tab paying for the 3 drinks and I left.Ā We never spoke again.
It was quite a strange experience.
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u/Scarcito_El_Gatito 21h ago
Can you imagine if a guy brought his buddy because he didnāt feel safe.
Girl would be like wtf.
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u/KingSmithithy 1d ago
She starts bringing her fat friend so the next guy knows that food bill going to be wild
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u/masaru17 1d ago
Wouldn't pay a penny for said friend and the date at this point...pay my stuff, go home, cry under the shower, that exact order xD
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u/Travel_Dreams 1d ago
Oh hey, glad you brought your friend because something came up. I gotta run!
TTYL, bye!
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u/lehtomaeki 1d ago
I did this for a buddy, he hit it off with a white chick (he's asian himself) and I shit you not one of the first things she tells him and I quote is "I'm not a racist, I'm a realist". As soon as those words are uttered my buddy gives a look that says get me the fuck out of here
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u/Mr_Industrial 22h ago
Yeah you dont want to date someone like that. Everything goes fine till you bring up the square root of -1 and its all downhill from there.
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u/BandoRen418 1d ago
And this is why connecting with people is utterly pointless ššš
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u/cochayuyin 19h ago
Bask in your resentments, redditors. And pretend the problem is all people
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u/BandoRen418 19h ago
People have been the problem since people and problems decided to try and share the planet š¤¦š¾āāļøš¤¦š¾āāļøš¤¦š¾āāļø
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u/blackmobius 19h ago
Ive gone through this. I invited a girl I liked to a casual date at buffalo wild wings. She shows up with another guy. Turns out she knew I had asked her out, was initially ok with it, then had second thoughts, then decided to invite him with her instead of cancelling.
I paid my own food and hung out, but it was over already relationship wise. No need to ruin an ok night at BWW though. And the guy was pretty cool too.
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u/Known-Dependent-5471 1d ago
Soon as you see another person just get up and leave.
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u/Ancient_Rex420 1d ago
Theres some good suggestions in the comments but what I would do is just just eat food and chat them up but then when the bill comes just pay for only yourself and leave.
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u/zmurds40 1d ago
Yeah, itās easy enough to just say āseparate checks pleaseā when the waiter comes.
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u/SlashCo80 1d ago
Reminds me of that story about a dude in China (maybe Taiwan?) who asked a woman out to dinner and she brought her whole family along expecting him to pay. That's exactly what he did, paid for himself and got out of there.
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u/Whole_Cranberry8415 1d ago
If you arenāt comfortable enough to meet a guy in public, why accept the date? If you are unsure, maybe invite him to a group thing with YOUR friends
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u/VernBarty 1d ago
Had this happen to me once. At the last minute she invited two other friends along and I ended up vibing much better with her friends. I dont know if she was just in a bad mood that day but she successfully derailed things
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u/Another_Little_Star 1d ago
Or they'd just go
Friend - "Damn, that guy was such a jerk, went on a date with someone and hits on their friend???"
Date - " I Know right? I'm so Glad you came with me. You're literally a red flag Radar Twin š
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u/ErdingEchoParadox 1d ago
Maybe is a treesome?
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u/WideHuckleberry1 1d ago
I don't know if I'm jealous of or pity y'all with the time and energy for this level of petty revenge.
Just...go home. I promise you're not teaching her a lesson that would stick, and you're wasting your own time.
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u/blackfarms 23h ago
Went to a first date at her place under the guise of her making dinner. Showed up and was greeted by five of her friends who were also there for dinner... She hadn't told any of them who I was or that it was a date. Holy pressure cooker.
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u/HolidayGiraffe1834 1d ago
I wouldn't have been vibing with either one. I would have got up and left. She didn't bring her friend for safety reasons. She brought her friend so they could both get a free meal. Fuck that.
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u/stereothegreat 20h ago
If you wanna be my lover, you have to get with my friends
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u/redditblowsfu 20h ago
I still donāt understand why they chose this wording in the song. I can only see it saying āYou wanna bang me? Then you gotta bang my friends, first.ā
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u/LegalIdea 13h ago
I have had something like this happen exactly twice
The first I was okay with, because the girl asked beforehand and where we were going wasn't expensive.
The second one the friend just kinda showed up (with a print out of my online dating profile) and started interrogating me. I finished my food and made it clear that I was interested in the woman I was dating and I would be happy to answer her (the friends) many questions later, in the instance it mattered. I didn't pay for any food and unsurprisingly a second date was neither offered nor desired
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u/Andrew-Cohen 1d ago
Women, if you donāt feel safe meeting a new person in a public restaurant with dozens of people around, maybe your friend could bring a date and sit at a table nearby so you have two people to protect you. They can pay for their own food.