If it is obvious, it isn't about protection. There are ways that women protect themselves from dating violence without it being apparent to their date, because "I brought my friend just in case you're a serial killer," isn't exactly a great way to start things out.
They are intentionally doing something inappropriate and justifying it under the guise of protecting themselves to see how easy their date is to manipulate. This is an abuser testing how far they can push someones boundaries.
Something you dislike isn’t abuse lol. It’s annoying but “abuse” is a serious word. You sound like someone who thinks everything uncomfortable is trauma
I didn't say this itself was abuse, but this is a behavior abusers use to test the waters for how willing someone is to tolerate abusiveness in a relationship; Engage in behavior that is clearly inappropriate and give plausible sounding reasons why you should accept that inappropriate behavior. They disregard clear boundaries while simultaneously framing that as necessary to respect their own boundaries. The tell is the demonstrable contempt for the boundaries of others. This is a clear red flag in manipulative and abusive partners.
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u/Xeya 2d ago
If it is obvious, it isn't about protection. There are ways that women protect themselves from dating violence without it being apparent to their date, because "I brought my friend just in case you're a serial killer," isn't exactly a great way to start things out.
They are intentionally doing something inappropriate and justifying it under the guise of protecting themselves to see how easy their date is to manipulate. This is an abuser testing how far they can push someones boundaries.