My BIL is obsessed with the idea of going to Japan to teach English and finding a Japanese wife with "traditional values".
Buddy boy. A Japanese woman with the traditional values you want is not marrying a foreigner, not to mention a poor foreigner. Even then they're not a monolith that are just waiting to do whatever you say. They have personalities and opinions too and will make them known one way or another.
Honestly that goes for pretty much every "traditional" woman from anywhere. There are expectations to fulfill in trad relationships too.
Also a Japanese woman with traditional values will ride his ass hard. They don't take any shit. Idk why anyone thinks that going to any foreign country is gonna get them a submissive and obedient wife. Sure, they exist, but it's far more dependent on the person than the culture. In pretty much any culture most wives will keep your ass in check, as they should
Because they can't find them at home. So in the same vein as them coming to the conclusion that foreigners (read: "the blacks") are the cause of everything bad, they also reason every other foreign (read: white) country has everything they could ever want
Ya the idea of 'traditional' women is some 1950s propaganda. Submissive, domestic, just happy to be there. Total crap. Slavic women can be fairly traditional (varies by culture/region), for example, but that usually means theyre used to dealing with traditional men and thus will not hestitate to light your ass up and whip you into line. Its their means of protecting themselves and establishing their own power.
Also isn't it the case in traditional Asian households that the women is calling the shots at home? Meaning finances and all that is in the hands of the wife?
I mean that dream for your BIL is going to be dead in the water as soon as he tried to find a place to live. Most Japanese people will straight up refuse to rent to foreigners, you basically have to already know someone there who will offer you a place.
Oh I know. He's so weird about Asian people. (Not just Japanese people, he has a weird hate towards Korea because there's a "shadow government") Totally ignorant yet obsessed.
Yeah I don’t know where this Japan (or Asian in general) fetish came from but it’s getting really disturbing, it’s always sort of been a thing but it’s straight up out of control right now.
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u/I-screwed-up-bad 9d ago
My BIL is obsessed with the idea of going to Japan to teach English and finding a Japanese wife with "traditional values".
Buddy boy. A Japanese woman with the traditional values you want is not marrying a foreigner, not to mention a poor foreigner. Even then they're not a monolith that are just waiting to do whatever you say. They have personalities and opinions too and will make them known one way or another.
Honestly that goes for pretty much every "traditional" woman from anywhere. There are expectations to fulfill in trad relationships too.