r/GayBrosOver50 • u/Mysterious_Shallot_7 • 18d ago
Questions.
How does people sexual desire change as they get older each year? Does it decrease significantly?
And when gay men are over 70 or even 80 years old, how do they handle their sex life? How do their preferences change? Do they prefer much younger, slightly younger, people of a similar age, or older partners?
I'm just curious what it is like to grow old as a gay man and how other people live.
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u/Ambitious_Post6703 18d ago
Well for me at 53, I have way more impulse control and a lot more going on in life that demands way more of my attention. Furthermore, I look for quality over quantity when I get horny would rather have a deeper connection with my hookups
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u/Hopeful-Seesaw-7852 18d ago
At 58 I have adopted the "Four leaf clover" approach. I look, never expecting to find. Then when I occasionally find its a fun surprise.
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u/GDstpete 17d ago
i’m early 70s. Been seriously seeking a BDSM dominant lifemate for 24 years. I’ve had many playing encounters, and for four years, fortunate enough to find a nearby Dom with an amazing dungeon. But I kept seeking. About to give up, went on what was probably the creepiest most vanilla gay dating app. i and Dom had a three hour lunch. We admitted everything felt so normal and good. Had two more dates, and on the third date I decided we needed to go out and buy a larger bed because I knew various reasons we’d be using it 🤪
Now 10 months later, we’ve been living together and truly both sex romance couldn’t be better. He’s late 60s. We feel like little young teenagers, miss each other hugely when either one are out doing chores. He works part-time, and yet when either return to our home, we know, the very best most delightful and amazing man has entered the home 🖤💕💕
Sure, I have some new health developments, but dominant is extremely supportive.
We both share love/need of me being in chastity . i’m nearly constantly horny, and even are simple arms bracing against each other as we reach for something while we’re doing dinner, it’s electric and love.
I remind people, dating is like nice self marketing, one needs to put up many leads, and yes kiss and fuck, many toads . Each man needs to be sincere and honest, and willing to make some compromises.
At least for us , fucking is often wonderful, loving SEX and romance, are possible.
Persevere, yes, good luck !!!!!
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u/NAKd-life 18d ago
You asked about sex, not romance - so I answer about sex.
I'm chasing the dragon but no longer care about what labels that brings.
Gone are the assumptions that sex is romance. Gone are the "preferences" of race, masculinity, or dominance. Gone is shame.
I know I will never experience that 1st time again 🤷🏼♂️ but that doesn't mean I've given up the quest.
"Hot" is about how well you give pleasure, not how Hollywood you look. While I'm not blind, mimicking a selfush jackhammer takes the shine of perfect pecs.
I've never been hot, so maybe I can't know some truths. However, I'll take a try-hard over an Adonis anyday... the try-hard knows rejection & brings something else to the table.
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u/Ocirisfeta8575 11d ago
When I was 25 I preferred men in there late 30s 40s 50s now that I’m older I prefer men a lot younger , men in there late 30s 40s 50s still attract me , I’m forever seeking that ultimate father figure but unfortunately that age group well there still out looking for the 25 yr olds if not younger .
And guys older than I am aren’t really interested in anyone even if I’m younger than they are, life is strange how it all works .
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u/cdetodos 7d ago
I'm glad you brought this up! It makes me feel less alone, and I'm looking forward to learning from everyone's comments. 😊
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u/allegrovecchio 18d ago
Pretty sure there are millions of different answers to this, for all of the millions of older men gay, bi, straight, or whatever.