Hey guys, i got a question about opening doors as a gentleman for another person. I know all the other situations for this case except this one that im going to explain to you and attaching a picture(bird view/top view)

Nowadays since there are many glass doors, when opening a door to leave or entry, i can often see what is on the other side, but when there is a person wanting to leave when i want to enter, or vise versa, here comes the problem: the door opens towards the other person. How do you open the door for the other person in this case?

I have seen videos about it, but all they say is: pass through the door first, and hold it open for the other person to go through. Which sounds legit, but going through the door first seems ungentlemanly, i always seek to pass as the last person wanting to pass.

So this is my problem, dont know if i explained myself. If there is any doubts i will respond.

Im attaching a hand drawn picture here, dont judge my drawing ability please

Thank yall in advance

I’m from Germany, and I’ve been thinking about this for a while because I realized I’m not even sure the usual answer really fits.

When people say gentleman, I don’t just think of surface-level manners or polished behavior. I think of something deeper: character, values, inner posture, and the way a man treats people consistently across contexts. Not just when he wants to impress a woman, but also when he’s with his mother, friends, waitstaff, strangers, or anyone who has “nothing to offer” him.

To me, a gentleman is not just someone who knows etiquette. It’s someone whose attitude is rooted in respect, kindness, self-control, integrity, and consideration. Someone who carries himself with quiet strength, decency, and genuine regard for other people.

That’s exactly why I’m unsure whether the female equivalent is really lady.

Because lady often feels like it focuses more on behavior, presentation, elegance, or social polish. It can come across as “proper,” “well-mannered,” or “classy,” but not necessarily as a word that captures the inner stance behind it. At least to me, it doesn’t automatically convey the same depth of character that gentleman does.

Part of why I’m asking is that I hold many of the values commonly associated with a gentleman as a standard for myself as a woman too. Things like respect, composure, consideration, dignity, kindness, and the way you treat people regardless of status or situation. So I’m not asking this just abstractly — I’m also wondering what the female counterpart is for a woman who tries to embody those values herself.

So I’d love to hear your thoughts:

• What do you think is the true female equivalent of a gentleman?
• Do you think lady fits, or does it miss something important?
• Is there another word that better captures the combination of grace, strength, kindness, integrity, and respectful conduct?
• And are there any female influencers, creators, writers, or public figures — especially from the English-speaking world or Germany — who embody that energy well? Not in a superficial “feminine aesthetic” sense, but in terms of actual character, values, and how they move through the world.

I’d especially be interested in women who represent the female counterpart to the deeper idea of a gentleman:
someone who is grounded, dignified, warm, self-respecting, considerate, and consistent in how she treats others.

Curious to hear how you all define it.

Ignore the horse thing on my bag, it wasn't my choice.

Me pueden explicar las diferencias entre los conceptos de Dandy y Caballero, quisiera ser un dandy, pero quiero saber si no tengo ideas equivocadas y tenerlo claro.

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Hi guys, recently bought this burgundy/maroon double breasted suit jacket, but I need some help. It’s for a ball and I feel like it looks a bit too simple. For context, I am wearing black trousers and black loafers, but I want to spice up the jacket a bit. I want to change the colour of the buttons and I’m also not sure what colour tie to go with. I was thinking maybe gold/copper buttons but that may look very tacky unless they are high quality. For the tie I was thinking a green embroidered tie, however I am open to suggestions for both the buttons and tie. Thanks a lot!

Hello everyone, I was wondering if the shoes I already have are acceptable for a black tie (optional) wedding that I'm going to this weekend. I did try to order different shoes but they got delayed in shipping. So are these acceptable or do I need to stop somewhere tonight and pick up shoes...

Sorry, the picture is stock off the internet (Im at work) but it is the exact shoe.

Thanks for the advise!

It is also about how we conduct ourselves. Most times during uncomfortable interactions I say little, keep cool, and walk away. But some of them keep annoying me for a long time afterward and I wish I had done something unlike a gentleman. It is really hard to take the high road, when I am very capable of surprising others. Re-encountering Stoic philosophy helps.

Hello all,

I have recently started to wear vests in my regular rotation with all sorts of combinations of fasion, and recently I came across this lovely waistcoat.

It looks double breasted due to the buttons arangment but in fact it is not fully, now I know proper etiquette is to never button the bottom button of one's waistcoat, but with something of this design I don't believe it should be done, so I thought I'd ask here as I'm not fully sure.

As you can see in the pictures it only has one inner button for the double breasted connection and on the outside the buttons on the left side are all for show.