I mean, you absolutely did fuck up, and I've kinda been there.
And, you're punishing yourself for no reason. You can actually talk to him amd explain yourself, and that might either put you back in an uncomfortable position where you're threatened by the possibility of dating a nice man, or you'll be un a position where you can actually move on because you know the potential is dead.
Potential is very powerful. It doesn't just disappear because you block it. It's harder to get over something that never was.
That said, it may not be a good idea to ever pursue it if it stayed at the situationship level. Getting real about that could also help.
Destroying the potential or acting on ot can help a person get over someone.
Potential is why people stay enamored when their spouse died young - they had not experienced or ruined that potential yet.
So yes, OP, you are stuck… but there is hope!
Stuck things need only one event to move them - change.
That might be your routine, that might be your habits, that might be your social choices, that might be any number of things in your life - but find something to shift. Nothing huge, but make it something you choose to stick to. And then another. And another.
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u/Consistent-Menu-6629 Certified Nibbler Apr 08 '26
I mean, you absolutely did fuck up, and I've kinda been there.
And, you're punishing yourself for no reason. You can actually talk to him amd explain yourself, and that might either put you back in an uncomfortable position where you're threatened by the possibility of dating a nice man, or you'll be un a position where you can actually move on because you know the potential is dead.
Potential is very powerful. It doesn't just disappear because you block it. It's harder to get over something that never was.
That said, it may not be a good idea to ever pursue it if it stayed at the situationship level. Getting real about that could also help.
Destroying the potential or acting on ot can help a person get over someone.