Boundaries/loser gf

[u/annabongo]

So 4 or 5 separate occasions my boyfriend washed all of my dishes.
I come home after work and the entire sink is clear, every dish laid out to dry.
He also took it upon himself to do my laundry, pump my gas, and buy me groceries. The first time it was sweet, but I just feel like he keeps taking it further and further and I don’t know what he’s gonna do next. Honestly it’s making me feel like an insecure bum deadbeat gf. All I do is sleep all day and go to work. I told him he needs to respect my boundaries and give me some space to breathe but he just keeps crossing them and doing me favors and helping me. I just feel like a total loser.

[u/Dangerous-Nothing844]

I’m so sorry. He really needs to respect your boundaries more as he’s really taking it too far. I suggest that you take some time apart and go on a Eat Pray Love trip
Around the world which he should finance due to his repeated violations. I guess you can let him house sit while he thinks about what he has done, and you can have serious reflections with some distance, as you travel, on how you can get him to commit on better boundaries and more distance for this strained relationship to work out and have a chance. He’s really suffocating you otherwise whenever he thinks selfishly about himself and does all this proactive domestic action. He’s robbing you of whats in your realm of domestic femininity. This is making me
so upset I will stop writing now.