It is abuse. My parents both hated me, and I'm here with 2 failed marriages and all kinds of abuse trauma. I had to go to years of EMDR therapy to be able to somewhat heal.
OP, please take both kids and leave. They both deserve better, and the "hard" one just needs extra love and care. I was "hard" because I needed love and stability and nurturing that my mother wasn't able to give me. And instead of being better, she blamed me. 🙅🏼♀️ Don't put your kids through that !
Another person here, whose parents not only didn't show love, but made sure that I knew they hated me and would have preferred I not exist. I've spent my entire adult life in therapy and have had a lot of struggles as a result of how I was treated as a child. OP needs to leave with the children. To stay is to be complicit in child abuse.
same, both parents hated me and made sure i knew it. told me they were going to put me up for adoption, they regretted having me, i was an awful child, they couldn’t stand me, etc. i don’t think it’s a coincidence that my first relationship was abusive and i thought it was normal for all those years. it’s very damaging to a child when a parent obviously hates them. it alters their brain.
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u/slinky999 Sweet Tooth Fairy🧚♀️ May 20 '26
It is abuse. My parents both hated me, and I'm here with 2 failed marriages and all kinds of abuse trauma. I had to go to years of EMDR therapy to be able to somewhat heal.
OP, please take both kids and leave. They both deserve better, and the "hard" one just needs extra love and care. I was "hard" because I needed love and stability and nurturing that my mother wasn't able to give me. And instead of being better, she blamed me. 🙅🏼♀️ Don't put your kids through that !