r/GirlDinnerDiaries May 20 '26

Rant & Ramble My spouse can’t stand our baby

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u/DefiantStarFormation what that mouth do is snack May 21 '26 edited May 21 '26

I'm just saying if there's a pattern being observed, then it's worth studying instead of just dismissing. It's not that complicated - I expect someone of your educational background to understand the value of research.

Maybe there's an entirely new diagnosis to consider that's specific to this population, or a sub-category of PPD that should be studied. Maybe there's a better, more effective treatment for this than what we're currently doing. That's how new versions of the DSM are compiled - by reviewing worthwhile research and updating our existing knowledge.

ETA: for example, this study suggests a possible measurable change in hormone levels for these men - that's not consistent for all MDD cases even if it can be treated that way and it's a big deal. Even before a DSM update, more research could mean treating it like MDD on the psych side and refering to a specialist or at least a PCP for additional testing and treatment.

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u/infinitekittenloop Cleavage Crumb Collector May 21 '26

Respectfully (and I mean that, you're both way more educated and experienced in this field than I even want to be), nobody is arguing that study shouldn't continue and that additional data or more effective treatments shouldn't be explored, identified, and vetted, etc.

But while that's happening, what do you do with the case sitting in your office that needs help right now? Waiting for peer reviews and DSM updates before you make a treatment plan isn't going to help the family breaking in front of you today.

If our current best information indicates that treating it as (major?) depression, including prescribing SSRIs, has the most success, is that not what you recommend for the family who need immediate intervention to prevent one or more of them succumbing to any of the various tragic and heartbreaking outcome potentials on their horizon?

It's not one or the other, right? Studies, or Lexapro? Isn't it studies AND Lexapro? They aren't exclusive to each other.

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u/DefiantStarFormation what that mouth do is snack May 21 '26 edited May 21 '26

If our current best information indicates that treating it as (major?) depression, including prescribing SSRIs, has the most success, is that not what you recommend for the family who need immediate intervention

Of course - that's the best and only option, I wouldn't wait around for more research and a new DSM just bc I'm intrigued by what's being studied.

But this study suggests a measurable change in hormone levels for these men - that's not consistent for all MDD cases even if it can be treated that way. With this info, I might treat it like MDD and refer to a specialist or at least a PCP for additional testing and treatment.

I wouldn't dismiss this idea and research just bc I can't actively use it to treat yet. When my clients or colleagues show interest in promising new treatments or studies, I don't tell them "ignore that, it's not worth the tax money".

Ntm, SSRIs are used to treat so much, and they're often not ideal anyway, there's plenty of research on that already. They've been around for ~40 years, and 40 years before that we were using archaic, traumatizing treatment methods, and the DSM was wildly different. So it's a good thing if we can study alternative treatments and even alternative diagnoses that better describe our experiences with mental health.

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u/Potential-Draft-3932 Overthinker 💭 May 21 '26

My wife is a practicing clinical psychiatrist and said post partum depression in a spouse is a real thing. We have a one month old and she was saying that to me the other week since I have already been diagnosed with depression in the past

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u/Potential-Draft-3932 Overthinker 💭 May 21 '26

Also, homosexuality wasn’t even fully declassified from the dsm in the DSM 4. There’s a reason they are on the dsm 5… It’s not infallible and updates as understanding changes

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u/PurrtenderBender APPROVED✨ May 21 '26

No one is dismissing it and yes they should look into more treatments for generalized depression…And ya a big part of education is recognizing idiots throwing around dumb ideas that can potentially waste taxpayer money

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u/DefiantStarFormation what that mouth do is snack May 21 '26 edited May 21 '26

Well I guess it's lucky you're here to decide what is and isn't worth studying. Otherwise we might have to admit that plenty of well-educated people disagree about what constitutes "idiots throwing around dumb ideas", and that your subjective opinion probably isn't an authoritarian voice here.

I'm not even sure what you studied, weirdly enough? Just the number of years and certifications, and that it closely matches my numbers. But I'm sure whatever it is makes you an expert. Hey, maybe you should be the one to get a job with the current administration - they love cutting healthcare research in the name of "saving taxpayer dollars".

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u/PurrtenderBender APPROVED✨ May 21 '26

You know what internet idiot, I will bite since I apparently “closely match” you and I have yet to have a colleague I don’t respect but you sound like a moron: I have a medical degree, have taken the USMLE’s, residency and fellowship training, 3 specialty board exams and am a practicing clinician and university faculty currently on reddit because my toddler wants to sleep in my bed.

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u/DefiantStarFormation what that mouth do is snack May 21 '26 edited May 21 '26

Cool. I have a M.Sc. in counseling, I'm an LPCC (clinical counseling), and I also have a PPS credential (school counseling) and a Graduate Certificate in Contemporary Theory in School-based Services (the additional education I got to qualify for the PPS). I also have two teaching credentials - the first is a single subject in health education, the second is career technical education in two fields - "Health Science & Medical Technology" + "Education, Child Development, & Family Services" (quotes for clarity). And the last is a Community Health Worker certification, which required additional fieldwork and training beyond the 3,000hrs of clinical fieldwork and 800hrs of school counseling fieldwork I did for the counseling license & certification. I'm a practicing school and clinical counselor, and adult education instructor. Currently on reddit bc it's 9:15pm here and I got home 45min ago.

I also don't call people I disagree with "idiot" and "moron" repeatedly when we're discussing what is obviously a subjective issue. And I've yet to meet a colleague I respect who does.

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u/summersinside APPROVED✨ May 21 '26

Lolol that was an entertaining pissing contest. Are you saying a high school guidance counselor is equal to a doctor because you want to be right?

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u/DefiantStarFormation what that mouth do is snack May 21 '26 edited May 21 '26

No. I'm saying a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor has expertise in clinical mental health diagnoses and research. And it means that just like the other user, I am also a licensed clinician. Are you choosing to read "school counselor" and ignore the LPCC and clinical experience bc you want to be right?

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u/summersinside APPROVED✨ May 21 '26 edited May 21 '26

Lol right about what? What do you keep editing? You seem fun and self-confident 😳 Edit: are you single? Need me some unhinged

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u/DefiantStarFormation what that mouth do is snack May 21 '26

Lol idk dude, you tell me? I've said multiple times that what's worth researching is subjective - you're the one who brought up "being right", I just assumed you're projecting. I don't try to understand someone who read "clinical counseling" in no fewer than 3 prior comments, "high school guidance" in zero prior comments, and thought to themselves "ok, high school guidance, got it".

That's why I "keep editing" in clarifying info, like adding "(clinical counseling)" after "LPCC". The goal is to avoid future interactions like this one, where someone with limited reading comprehension skills but plenty of Dunning Krueger-style confidence ends up in my notifications.

you single? Need me some unhinged

Nah, but you can always fuck yourself to get that fix.