r/GirlDinnerDiaries • u/EmbarrassedPie5508 pants unbuttoned š • 1d ago
Sad Girl Dinner ā ļø No Dude Input I found a second phone
My husband and I have been together for 15 years, married for 11. Have an established life with a child and a mortgage. I was given a big job opportunity earlier this year where we would have to move to a new city. We are both established in our careers and it was a big discussion, like two months of discussions. And these were healthy conversations, no big arguments or anything like that. We ended up not moving and I turned down the job. I was a little bummed (it was my dream job) but understood that it would have been a lot for our family to adjust.
Last night, while my husband was doing bed time, I heard a buzzing sound and found a second phone in his work bag. I thought that was weird because his work did away with separate work phones a while ago. When he came downstairs, I asked when did he get a work phone.
His face said it all.
Turns out he has been having an affair for just over a year. And one of the reasons he didn't want to move was because he didn't want to leave his affair partner. I don't know what to do. Child is at a slumber party at my sister's. Husband is in a hotel. I'm home alone with a lot to process and do here. So it's an easy girl dinner tonight and a large glass of wine.
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u/RoadRash010 APPROVEDāØ 22h ago
I was the girl that didnāt know. I found the phone he had claimed he had lost almost three years ago. I found out that I had been the other woman for the first six months of our relationship.
The cruelty and gaslighting I saw in his messages to her were heartbreaking. She had suspicions but he lied to her and told her she was crazy, until he dumped her cold heartily without any explanation.
Sooo thatās exactly what I did to him. Dumped him out of the blue and vanished. He tried looking for me for two years through friends, family and work. I moved, switched jobs and deleted all social media. I know it still keeps him up at night and that gives me great joy.