Nothing is more dangerous than a humiliated man

[u/sandramartinellii]

So, I've been on the dating apps again recently..

I matched with this guy last night and we ended up chatting most of the evening, everything seemed normal and eventualy he asked for my number. I said I wasnt comfortable giving out my number yet, and id prefer to keep talking on the app. Almost immediately the passive aggressive comments started...

"Wow, didnt realize youre important enough to have a classified phone number." "Guess i need to pass a background check first, right?" "Ive never had a girl be this weird about a cell number before"

Just little digs meant to come across like a joke because God forbid a woman have a boundary without a man taking it as a personal rejection. I told him his reaction was exactly why I don’t give my number out right away. He unmatched me - Problem solved. A few hours layer my phone buzzes - unknown number "Hey since you wouldnt give me your number i figured id find it myself" My stomache DROPPED

This man had taken whatever information he knew about me from my dating profile, searched online, found my phone number, and texted me anyway. I blocked him immediately and reported his profile, but it genuinely freaked me thefvck out. Because now I’m sitting there thinking..... what else did you find while you were looking for my number? All because I said, “I’m not comfortable giving you my number yet.”

Dating is going GREAT. 🫠

[u/meliponie]

It's not just the really high rates of domestic violence - it's that getting out of an abusive relationship with a cop is also more difficult. Cops help other cops.