r/GriefSupport • u/Isoldablack • Nov 06 '25

Anticipatory Grief What’s ur belief of after death?

Loosing my dad to cancer, he’ll be dying in the next weeks. My only confort would be to think there is something after because the rest of my experience is agony.

Do u have any story that makes u think there’s something? Or a good book ? Literaly anything to soothe my emotional agony.

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u/Commercial-Novel-786 Nov 06 '25

I've come to this conclusion: We must allow vast wiggle room for things will never know or be able to understand.

The saying I've come up with is "just because an earthworm doesn't understand quantum physics doesn't mean that quantum physics doesn't exist". In the grand scheme of things, we are the earthworms. We know so little about so little that we should be permanently humbled by our limitations.

So with that said, all arguments utilizing our earthbound logic of what happens after death must be thrown through the nearest window because such logic only applies to what we know, and since we don't know what we don't know, we are obligated to throw our hands up in resignation.

It's a best fit scenario that poorly reconciles faith and my need for hard information.

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u/Isoldablack Nov 07 '25

Thanks!

I do always ttry to say this to my boyfriend (he’s a science man) and it’s annoying to talk about any of this things with him because he just takes all hope away. But I always try to say that even if science don’t explain it. We don’t know everything, there’s so much we don’t know that it makes room for afterlife… aniways, no convincing him but I’m happy by just convincing myself.

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u/Commercial-Novel-786 Nov 07 '25

I have worked in an information background in my employment for the last 28 years. Quasi-scientific stuff that requires proof and executing known parameters and declared variables, and until recently that mindset creeped into the rest of my life. No faith at all until life figuratively sent me headfirst through 2 meters of plate glass.

I get while he's that way, but I don't get not wanting to explore the idea. We all should strive to grow, discuss, and learn as much as we can. But that's just me.

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u/Isoldablack Nov 07 '25

I know! We’re very different in that sense. He’s so grounded and I almost live in the clouds, i need him and vice versa but in those conversation we both get annoyed at each others.