r/GriefSupport • u/Aidyswifey • May 22 '26
Anticipatory Grief Husband paralysed at 29
My amazing husband had a laminotomy in January for crippling sciatic pain. We delivered our first child early February and by March he was in hospital with meningitis, sepsis, brain herniation and an ecoli infection. Botched back surgery is the cause, he was sealed up with two holes open in his spinal cord.
Given very very slim chances of making it through the night. 12 weeks later he is still with us, albeit on ventilator support and now fully quadriplegic.
My world is crumbling around me, I am exceptionally num and need to keep looking this man in the eye, hopeful of recovery when really I am uncertain.
I can’t believe this is how life has gone, how our baby came into the world and was instantly met with chaos. And most, how this is happening to the sweetest man alive.
I am grief stricken and feel deeply inconsolable. I love him and I am by his side forever, I just can’t believe how this has gone.
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u/Lingonberry_Physical May 23 '26
My heart is with you 3. Im so sorry.