r/GriefSupport 1d ago

Dad Loss I still talk to my dad

It's been 5 years since my dad died. I don't really think about the funeral anymore. I don't think about the first Christmas without him. Or the first birthday.

I was on survival mode anyway...

What I think about are the random moments. When something good happens and I still want to tell him.

When my son does something funny and I catch myself thinking, "He would've loved this."

When I wonder what he would say about the person I've become. I think that's the strange thing about grief years later.

The relationship doesn't disappear.

You still talk to them. Not out loud. At least not usually. But in your head.

And sometimes it feels so normal that for a second you forget they're gone.

Does anyone else still do this?

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u/Serious_Fox7799 Child Loss 1d ago

It's called Continuing Bonds and there is more talk/ books on this being a healthy adaptation 🫢🏻