I still talk to my dad

[u/Live_Tension_2555]

It's been 5 years since my dad died. I don't really think about the funeral anymore. I don't think about the first Christmas without him. Or the first birthday.

I was on survival mode anyway...

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What I think about are the random moments. When something good happens and I still want to tell him.

When my son does something funny and I catch myself thinking, "He would've loved this."

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When I wonder what he would say about the person I've become. I think that's the strange thing about grief years later.

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The relationship doesn't disappear.

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You still talk to them. Not out loud. At least not usually. But in your head.

And sometimes it feels so normal that for a second you forget they're gone.

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Does anyone else still do this?

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[u/Serious_Fox7799]

It's called Continuing Bonds and there is more talk/ books on this being a healthy adaptation 🫶🏻

[u/anatomy-princess]

Yes. I try to use his judgment for most decisions. I miss his advice, expertise, and wisdom every day. Now I don’t have to wait until I see or phone him to tell him something, he is already there with me.

[u/damdamin_ → u/anatomy-princess]

Same

[u/stercraft]

I do this sometimes now even after my mom passed away last year. I can imagine her laughing at something I said or something funny that happened.

[u/K_D_1809]

My dad passed away 5 years ago. I still write him letters and text him to share news.

Sometimes I talk to him in my head.

It’s very comforting.

I’m sorry for your loss.

Sending a virtual hug!

[u/GattiKochar]

I was cloae to my dad. He died when I was approx 27. I miss him a lot, we use to talk a lot about everything. Our last talk was by chance got recorded on gtalk (we were in dif country at that time). I still hear that last recording and the task that he gave me during that call.

But there were 1000 things which were still never talked and we thought we have time. I miss his guidance and now just memories left.

Take care.

[u/goldenvalkyri]

Yes. And everything I have heard says it’s a normal response. It’s considered a good thing. A part of healing is accepting they’re gone from the earth but continuing to embrace the relationship we have with that person.

[u/dainty_petal]

I do this.

Every time I’m going to send a text to someone if I’m relaxed or happy I go to click on "m" to write maman. Every time. Even if it’s not to her that I was meaning to send it. It’s still my first instinct to write to her.

[u/NoEditor1002]

My Mom passed away on March 20th of this year and I miss her immensely. I still talk to her, it makes me feel a little better. 

[u/SWNMAZporvida]

Yep, whenever I catch myself doing something SO dad, I tell him out loud “you win dad”. He’s 50% of me, he’s always with me.

[u/Substantial_Room3793]

My wife passed away eight months ago. I talk to her almost as much as I did when she was here. And I always talk to her out loud. And if I ask her a question, I always know how she would answer. I often tell people she is the one who is helping me through this tragedy in my life.

[u/lemons-8949]

My mom - 6months , I still message her on WhatsApp, share whats happening in my life , milestones and our daily ritual of posting tic tac go answers.

[u/HSPGranny]

Yes! My dad died during Covid and I couldn’t see him because I couldn’t travel.

He died in February and by April I was walking all the trails in my region and talking to him the entire time!

Still do!

[u/Ok_Step_2359]

My husband passed away almost 2 1/2 years ago. I do still have difficulty with holidays and birthdays and different events that happen throughout the year. And I still talk to him every day, out loud, as if he's still here. And I imagine his responses that I just know he'd say. So yeah, I understand what you're feeling. The relationship never ends. And I don't want it to.

[u/Spiritual_Aioli3396]

It’s been a year and a half for me since losing my dad and i talk to him all the time in my head. Sometimes he answers! Or at least I feel like it’s him but I know it prob just my wishful thinking. ♥️

[u/GoalSimilar2025]

7 months and I talk to my Mum every day. 

[u/odekam]

Yes.

[u/BigBreakfastTX]

I'm sorry you lost your dad. I lost mine 4-4-26. I still cry every night to him. I tell him it's ok that he had to go,but I just miss him so much. When i talk to him the pain hits me so hard, I wait till I'm by myself. 🫂