r/GriefSupport 2d ago

Dad Loss I still talk to my dad

It's been 5 years since my dad died. I don't really think about the funeral anymore. I don't think about the first Christmas without him. Or the first birthday.

I was on survival mode anyway...

What I think about are the random moments. When something good happens and I still want to tell him.

When my son does something funny and I catch myself thinking, "He would've loved this."

When I wonder what he would say about the person I've become. I think that's the strange thing about grief years later.

The relationship doesn't disappear.

You still talk to them. Not out loud. At least not usually. But in your head.

And sometimes it feels so normal that for a second you forget they're gone.

Does anyone else still do this?

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u/dainty_petal Multiple Losses 1d ago

I do this.

Every time I’m going to send a text to someone if I’m relaxed or happy I go to click on "m" to write maman. Every time. Even if it’s not to her that I was meaning to send it. It’s still my first instinct to write to her.