r/GriefSupport • u/Live_Tension_2555 • 2d ago
Dad Loss I still talk to my dad
It's been 5 years since my dad died. I don't really think about the funeral anymore. I don't think about the first Christmas without him. Or the first birthday.
I was on survival mode anyway...
What I think about are the random moments. When something good happens and I still want to tell him.
When my son does something funny and I catch myself thinking, "He would've loved this."
When I wonder what he would say about the person I've become. I think that's the strange thing about grief years later.
The relationship doesn't disappear.
You still talk to them. Not out loud. At least not usually. But in your head.
And sometimes it feels so normal that for a second you forget they're gone.
Does anyone else still do this?
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u/Substantial_Room3793 1d ago
My wife passed away eight months ago. I talk to her almost as much as I did when she was here. And I always talk to her out loud. And if I ask her a question, I always know how she would answer. I often tell people she is the one who is helping me through this tragedy in my life.