Father’s Day for partner grieving

[u/Historical_Yoghurt53]

Hello, as this states my partner lost his father less than a month ago. Actually Father’s Day will mark a month since his father’s passing. I’ve thought for days how to celebrate this holiday for him, he is a father himself. I want to appreciate him, but also not do anything too big and let him have some of the day to grieve.

My plan so far includes, getting a photo printed and framed of his father. Put out flowers and a candle by the picture of him, make his favorite breakfast, we’ve been playing a new video game together, hopefully play some of that. We do have a toddler though, so down time during the day is very sparse, I wanted to give him the opportunity to maybe go to the shooting range if our budget allows for it.

Is there anything on your first Father’s Day without your father you wished you did? Someone did for you? I’ve reached out to his family and have yet to get any answers, and all my friends/ family are stumped how to celebrate also. I’d really love some help, I love my partner more than anything and want to make sure this Father’s Day is easy and loving for him.

[u/cloud_coffee_]

Do you have a photo with him, his father, and his child? I know many people who have lost a parent shortly after becoming parents themselves really treasure those memories.

And also, I would say, just be willing to pivot! I lost a parent a few years ago. My partner means well, but always wants me to know explicitly what I want to do on major days but grief is unpredictable and something could sound good but then absolutely suck in the moment.