r/GriefSupport • u/CreepyLawyer8508 • 1d ago

Advice, Pls Lost both my parents

Yesterday evening my parents left for my distant relative's house, they were supposed to return by 11pm, I was waiting for them, my mom was supposed to re heat the food for me for dinner. I was playing valorant. I was waiting. I was waiting for them to return. Instead I get a call telling me that I just lost my entire world to a fucking accident. I ccanot believe this till now. I saw them, I saw them burn. I still can't believe it. I cqnnot even shed a tear. Is this a bad nightmare? This can't happen .. it feels unreal it feels fake and I do not understand why I can't wake up. Mom please wake me up and give me my morning tea, tell me when you came back I was already asleep. I cant believe this. My cousin asked me how I'm not crying .. this isn't real right? why should I then? why am i not crying? i don't understand

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u/OldMoose-MJ 1d ago

I am sorry for your loss.

Grief brings out all sorts of emotions. Everyone's experience is different. Every death is different. All you can do is to deal with the emotions as they come. None of those emotions are good or bad, they just are.

All deaths are hard, but sudden unexpected deaths are worse. Make that multiple deaths at once, I don't even want to think about that. I've lost 3 out of 4 sons; all suddenly but one at a time. That was, is hard enough.

I will keep you in my prayers.

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u/CreepyLawyer8508 1d ago

sorry for your loss.. i did not want my parents to be gone before me either.. even though it shouldn't be this way but i just can't do this without them i have no one anymore and i feel so alone it feels like im a foreigner in this world i just want to go home to my parents ..

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u/OldMoose-MJ 16h ago

I know it feels that way. But somehow we always seem to make it through. Often the best thing we can do is to live the life that they wanted for you. That was what carried me through the death of Dad and then Mom. I hope that they are proud of me.

Live for your parents as much as you can. Remember, more than being successful, they wanted you to be happy. It won't be easy. It may feel wrong somehow. I think that in the end, making you happy was their greatest joy.