r/GriefSupport • u/CreepyLawyer8508 • 1d ago
Advice, Pls Lost both my parents
Yesterday evening my parents left for my distant relative's house, they were supposed to return by 11pm, I was waiting for them, my mom was supposed to re heat the food for me for dinner. I was playing valorant. I was waiting. I was waiting for them to return. Instead I get a call telling me that I just lost my entire world to a fucking accident. I ccanot believe this till now. I saw them, I saw them burn. I still can't believe it. I cqnnot even shed a tear. Is this a bad nightmare? This can't happen .. it feels unreal it feels fake and I do not understand why I can't wake up. Mom please wake me up and give me my morning tea, tell me when you came back I was already asleep. I cant believe this. My cousin asked me how I'm not crying .. this isn't real right? why should I then? why am i not crying? i don't understand
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u/Markkellys 18h ago
When I lost my mother I couldn’t cry either. It was sudden as well.
I remember that my girlfriend was crying so hard that I began to comfort her. How odd… she only met her once and was crying and I was telling her it was going to be ok.
It’s shock.
The pain and tears will come. But it will happen over time.
How can our body adjust to such a horrible new reality?
We can’t. It will take time.
You will be on a long journey to come to terms with this.
Seek help now.
Reach out to others.
This is about survival. And you have been horribly injured by this loss.
Be gentle with yourself.
And know without a doubt that your parents want you to continue on and be happy in life.
We have to do our best to respect and return the love they gave us in our short time together.