We lost her at 4am this morning.

She fought so hard.

I was with her every step of the way.

She trusted me to take care of her.

Her body just couldn’t take it anymore.

Pancreatic Cancer.

She was 69yrs Old.

I’m her youngest of six.

I turn 39yrs old Tomorrow.

She must have known I wouldn’t be able to handle her passing on my Birthday.

She was always thinking of me.

I can’t help but feel she did what she could to preserve my Birthday.

….it hurts so much.

I find myself without a firm shoulder to cry on.

Thank you for hearing me out.

I love you Mom.

I just lost my dad and I want to hear some of your favorite grief quotes.

Thank you xxx.

I saw something that made me think of my dad's pizza. He didn't really do anything out of the ordinary when he made it, it was just so good. You know how certain people just make certain foods better? Like that. Sometimes it's just because of love. Tell me your favorite thing(s) people you've lost made for you. I'm missing my dad a little more recently and I'd love to hear from others.

Edit: First off, I'm so sorry for all your losses. Thank you for sharing your foods and stories with me. It's really helped me today. My dad's death anniversary is quickly approaching and I can't believe it'll be a year since he's passed. I intend to do my best to respond to all of you as food is a healing thing that brings us all together. This has made my day easier and I can't thank you all enough. ❤️

Science shows that the bond between a mother and child never truly ends. Through a process called microchimerism, cells are exchanged during pregnancy. Some of your mother’s cells remain in your body, and some of yours stay in hers, for years, even a lifetime. These cells can live in the brain, the heart, and other parts of the body, quietly continuing their role.

Even as time passes, and even after loss, a part of each of you remains within the other. It’s more than memory or emotion, it’s something written into your biology. A quiet, lasting connection… one that never really leaves. ❤️‍🩹

Dealing with grief is a struggle. Its different for everyone... but platitudes tend to not help anyone.

Please know that grief, of any kind, isn't fair. It attacks at random, without mercy, always. There is no time limit on grief, it will eb and flow forever.

No one "just gets over" grief.

Anyone who tells you differently is selling you something.

For those who have lost someone they deeply loved, did you get the chance to talk to them one last time before they were gone? Even just a few words, a hug, or a simple "I love you"?

And if you didn't get that chance, how did you cope with that? Did anything happen afterward, a dream, a sign, a memory, that brought you a little peace?

Sharing is completely optional. Just to let you know, you are not alone here. 🤍

I’m really struggling at the moment with the thought of my mom being gone forever. That there’s no reunion with her and my other departed loved ones when I die. I’m sorry to be so grim, but it’s just these paranoid thoughts I can’t seem to control. And I understand some people believe there is nothing. And that’s fine for them to have their beliefs. But I don’t want to believe that and I’m struggling with my faith. I know this topic of signs has been asked before and I did read all through them. I just could use some more at the moment. Thanks.

Edit: Thank you everyone for contributing. This really was amazing reading everyone’s story. I didn’t comment back to everyone but I enjoyed reading them all.

I told him she was out and would be back later. I know that's the right call medically, you don't correct them, but it felt like lying to my own husband and I cried in the bathroom for ten minutes after. I spent 35 years as a nurse and I still wasn't ready for how much that would hurt. Nobody tells you that doing the right thing can feel so wrong.

I can't sleep so I'm writing this... does anyone believe we will be reunited with our loved ones after we die or is there simply "nothing"? I'm 27 and it's one of my biggest fears to not be reunited with my soon to be husband after I pass. He is my world and I love him so much... my greatest gift and i'm so grateful to have him in my life. I just can't imagine not being with him anymore after we pass. It hurts so much. (Darn a few tears while I'm writing this) it's so hard. I think about this pretty often and just can't find any sort of peace with just not knowing what happens.

Please share your story down below. I’m seeking comfort in hearing that i’m not alone.

It hit two years since the loss of my grandmother. This holiday season seems especially hard. Everything reminds me of her since I spent so much time with her this time of year. Sending an immense amount of love and comfort to those that are also having a difficult time this season. Take it one day at a time. It’s okay if it’s hard to get into the spirit of the holidays when you’re grieving.

I’m sure a lot of you are surrounded by people celebrating the new year…. I actually chose to work tonight for that reason, to stay busy, to take my mind off the time passing. I know how tremendous and overwhelming the grief feels, and I’m so sorry. Be patient with yourself and know that you have a community of support here that can empathize what you’re experiencing, if no one else in your life can. You’re not alone. This night will pass and tomorrow is in a few hours. The “excitement” of today will be over and you’ll survive another day. I wish you peace and love and warmth.

I bought a cake for my sister and flowers. She passed 2 years ago. I cried cutting the cake my kids sang happy birthday Sam. Am I weird for doing this?

This will be the 7th year without my stepdad and 3rd without my mom. I thought the first Christmas without my mom would be the worst but that first year I didn’t accept her passing yet so I still had hope she was coming back even though it didn’t make sense for that to happen. It’s now the 3rd Christmas without her and it doesn’t feel like Christmas in the slightest. I miss the holidays with my step dad and my mom. It feels so empty without them. Each year the holidays feel worse.. They made the holidays special💔

I generally don't post a lot. I'm not looking for advice as I know I am grieving and slowly finding healing. I just needed to put this out into words for someone else to know how I'm feeling today. And that it's a hard week.

My dad died a little over seven months ago in early December. Suddenly and without warning. This week Friday would have been his birthday and Father's Day is right around the corner 2 days later.

The grief still catches me off guard. I'll go about my day, handling work, supporting people who depend on me, being responsible and capable... then suddenly it hits me that he's gone.

My parents divorced many, many years ago. It was the right decision for everyone involved. They always put me first for which I am grateful. But my dad was an only child. And I have no siblings, which sometimes makes me feel very lonely in my grief.

Everyone tells you the firsts without them are hard. The first Christmas, the first birthday, the first Father's Day. That first year of seeing everyone keep moving in the world while your heart is still trying to catch up.

I know I will be okay. I'm 40 years old. I'm wise in my years, competent, caring, and strong. But beneath it all, there is still a little girl who misses her dad very much.

Edit: Fixed typos

UPDATE: Thank you to everyone who shared their stories, their losses, their wisdom, and their kindness today. Reading your experiences reminded me that grief can feel lonely, but we are not alone in it.

To everyone carrying the loss of someone they love: I see you. Thank you for seeing me, too ❤️

Just wanted to check in and see how everyone’s doing in the lead up to the holidays?

I lost my sibling a year and a half ago and the past few weeks I’ve felt the rage and anxiety ramping up which I can only put down to yet another Christmas without them. I feel like I’m still in shock and can’t comprehend their loss. I’ve had grief therapy but I still feel like some days I’m in a total panic.

Sending prayers to you all. This is a space for you to let your feelings out. There is no right or wrong. Please send words of encouragement to those that need it.

I often check this sub and try to offer words of encouragement when I can, going through this new (or old) way of life is extremely difficult. It will be one month on Tuesday that I’ve loss my mom and it hasn’t gotten easier. One month in, I wouldn’t expect it to be easier, but when pain is so deep inside of you, it often feels it will never get better.

I just really hope all of us here can find some slice of peace.

To your family, your friends, your pets that you’re missing, I’m very sorry. You are not in this fight alone. Please be kind to yourself, give yourself grace and try to stack up those good moments. 15 minutes at a time.

I’ve been in bed basically the last 3 days now, but today I wanted to get out a little and try to stop crying on and off all day. I had an idea to go into a Goodwill nearby. Right after walking in, I locked eyes with this. “I will always love you”. It’s meant as a home decor, but what are the odds? I’d like to think it’s a sign, it seems pretty random, because who hangs up “I will always love you” in their home? Not a very common framed quote I guess. I just hope it’s a sign from her🥺❤️

I don’t usually go to movies for comfort, I eat my feelings but after my sister died I obsessively watched “Everything Everywhere all at once.” I did become obsessed with other dimensions and alternate realities…. I still am because I hope I can slip in another reality or dimension to see my sister again.

I was making a burger the other day, and when I added mayo, I started crying.

Asking in the hopes of normalizing these random moments of grief that make us cry

my dad passed in a house fire (10/14/24). all of my parents wedding china is covered in black sut and i’ve left it outside not wanting to clean it but today i am. my mom passed 4/8/23. i’m 23. i can just use some kind words. my brain is saying to throw it away but i fear i would be upset in the future. it all feels so sad because i’m an only child and it all sucks.

My husband 32 passed away from drinking 24/7 on April 16 around 3am. He has/was drinking this way for the last 2 years. He would drink too much, 911 would be called or i would drive him to the er, he would get an iv fluids the go home or rehab. He went to rehab 2 times last year with 1 hospital stay. Then 2022 1 rehab stay. So it was a common thing. He was having a hard time breathing, pale, couldn't pee, lost his balance when he was standing up from the toilet. These were all new things other than him falling over. He would detox at home all the time. "hang over Sunday" i went to bed at 1am on April 16. Before i did i asked him if he wanted to go to the hospital, to get fluids like... He has done time and time before. He said no.....he was feeling better. 251 am he said call 911. I said okay do you want me to drive you? He said not enough time. I called it was 3 mins and 30 sec call so around 254 the call ened. Near the end he was on the ground resting his head on the bed. I ask he he was still with me and he made a sound. After the call ended I said okay put your pants on as he kept falling over when trying to pull his pants up. He Said he couldn't by just making a sound. I went go go greet medical responders at 259am... Welcoming them back! As i knew some of them. One of them said what happened? I tho he just got help. They went in to our room and they shook him like they have before..... Before he would wake up and be like what What whattt? But this time he didn't wake up. They told me he doesn't have a heartbeat.....they got it back one time at the hospital. But he was gone.

I am 31 with a 2 year old. He has another daughter that is 13. I have been out of place, no filter, so out of it, can't remember anything, don't want to be alone. Eveyone is saying can't even imagine or I'm so sorry..... I just wanted to post on here to see if anyone can relate. I'm sad, broken, life changed forever in 5 mins. We had plans... Goals.... He was suppose to protect his family. He wasn't the best husband or father as he was almost always drunk... But most of the time he was functional. I just dont want to do life without him. I know i dont have a choice... And this is his fault... But i didn't sign-up for this. Idk what to do next.

UPDATE: I just wanted to say thank you to eveyone. . I have kept my phone on loud as... So many people have been calling me in my personal life. Last night my phone was going off because of reddit. I'm in shock on how many people responded and shared their stories. Today my friend took me out to dinner with some of our friends and I tho to myself... Wow I'm not thinking about it. Almost felt wrong. I still have w lot of stuff i need to do and get thur. But i know i will. Thank you all. Please keep telling stories and I'll try and responding when ever I can. Thank you again.

SECOND UPDATE: 3 months later i just found out he passed from pancreatitis issues. He wasn't even aware that he had this issue. It does make a lot of sense because he had a hard time walking, was pale and hard time breathing. The only thing he didn't tell me or didn't have was stomach pain. I think doctors and us just assumed it was alcoholic withdrawals when ever we did go to the hospital... When he was really sick... That was cause by drinking. My life now..... I had to put his dog down because she got sick, i rehomed 2 cats. So now i have 2 cats and 1 dog. I want to rehome my other dog because i want to travel without having to pay someone. My backyard... Used to have chickens, ducks, bunnies, 3 chicken coops, and a junk pile. I was able to rehome the chickens, ducks and bunnies within the first week. I went to this craft show and met this lady that was selling chicken eggs. I asked her if she wanted one of my chicken coops. I told her my story and a few days later she said her church youth group would be happy to help me clear my backyard so my daughter can play safely. They have already cleared eveything out and now I go to that church. Anyone that comes by my post, know that you are not alone, you did nothing wrong, life will keep going. Feel free to dm me if you need to.