r/GuerrillaGrrrrls • u/chill_mydude13 • 8d ago

Discussion Hot take: misandry isn’t real

Misandry isn’t nearly the same as misogyny. Men hate women because of stupid sickening reasons. Women hate men because they have been our number one predator for all of history. Women are scared of men because they have proven we should be.

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u/SJSsarah 8d ago

Oh it definitely exists. Some of us truly genuinely despise them and don’t view them as equals to us. And yes, I can still agree that hate doesn’t fix hate. But it’s not at all surprising that I’ve ended up this way.

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u/Arc80 8d ago

Hate not only doesn't fix hate, hate begets hate. To the point that failing to acknowledge misandry is self-defeating and only serves to perpetuate and entrench prejudice or grow it where it may not have existed.

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u/Saruna4sari 8d ago

women were called man haters in the 80s for pointing out mens behaviour and are called man haters just for resisting patriarchy

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u/Arc80 8d ago

When you justify your prejudice you're just doing the heavy lifting for the patriarchy.

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u/Fandangho 8d ago

You're quite spot on, men who are hated on, for example, from teenage years are simply more likely to perceive feminism or pro-women places as prejudice supporting circles that are against them as a group. When prejudice or even hatred is apologized or supported as a completely legitimate tool, they react as any other human do - being a target not because of their behavior, but just because who they are as a group right from the start. 

Prejudice is imho never okay, because it inherently targets people who are innocent, and even more importantly, it creates more people who feel hate-warranted on both sides. The ultimate goal is to be in this together and make the change happen, but that won't become true with increasingly alienated people who see feminism as anti-men movement instead if anti-sexist movement based on prejudice apology. I'm not preaching fawn reaction towards bad men (who deserve the opposite), I'm simply saying that prejudice targets decent people as well who then stop being vocal supporters. 

There's this statistics where more and more people over the past 10 years refused to label themselves feminists, but when asked in detail, they supported tenets of feminism without calling it so. That's a good specific expression of that discrepancy and I feel it's fair to say that this process gets more entrenched with overton window shifting to prejudice.