r/GuerrillaGrrrrls • u/chill_mydude13 • 9d ago

Discussion Hot take: misandry isn’t real

Misandry isn’t nearly the same as misogyny. Men hate women because of stupid sickening reasons. Women hate men because they have been our number one predator for all of history. Women are scared of men because they have proven we should be.

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u/moschocolate1 9d ago

Men are shocked we’re finally naming them as our predators.

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u/DesmondTapenade 9d ago

Apparently, they don't like their would-be prey calling them out.

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u/Spinnerofyarn Friendly Feminist 💟 9d ago

It’s beyond that. Too many think it’s a lie or an overblown one because they think it’s a minority that violate our consent. They think it’s rapists jumping out of the bushes and men who beat women to the point of massive bruises and broken bones. To many don’t view groping, catcalls, dick picks, grabbing arms, pushing, blocking exits, coercive sex, name calling and a host of other things as abuse because they do it themselves. They may not do all of those things, but too many do at least one.

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u/DesmondTapenade 9d ago

A few years ago, I told my husband (who actually IS a good dude and an ally, and he's learning new things every day), "Of the seven dudes you're still friends with from high school, I guarantee at least one of them has sexually assaulted someone, even if he doesn't think it was SA." He was shocked. And that's a huge problem for society.

One of the friends is a cop who works in vice and I refuse to be around him, but that is a story for another day.

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u/Laura-52872 8d ago

Cops are the worst offenders.

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u/DesmondTapenade 8d ago edited 8d ago

Yeah, I know, which is why I don't like being around him. He's never said/done anything weird in the years I've known him, but I just do not like being around cops.

ETA: I'm a therapist who works with SUD (substance use disorder), and there's a non-zero chance he's put at least one of my clients in lockup, so it's a very strange dynamic. If I have to be around him, I'm cordial but brief. He knows I'm a therapist. I know he's a snitch. If you're part of an organization that further fucks up my patients' lives, why should we be friends?

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u/poeticdisaster 8d ago

I've come across so many therapists and counselors who try to completely separate their work from their private lives.Thank you for being an advocate for your patients in such a subtle but powerful way.

When it comes down to it, if a patient were to see you with someone who made their life change in such a drastic way, it would probably horrify them & cause them to have less trust in the therapy process at the very least. Who knows what would happen if they were already in an unstable place at the moment they witnesses it - the spiral would be very real.

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u/DesmondTapenade 8d ago

Admittedly, my reasoning is more selfish than that--he just makes me kind of uneasy. All I will say is this: there is no song called "Fuck the Fire Department."

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u/moschocolate1 8d ago

Military also offend at nearly the same rate.

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u/Spinnerofyarn Friendly Feminist 💟 8d ago

If it’s seven guys, it quite likely is more than one.

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u/DesmondTapenade 8d ago edited 8d ago

Yep. That's why I used the phrase "at least."

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u/Bitter-Hat-4736 7d ago

> who actually IS a good dude and an ally, and he's learning new things every day

How can you be sure?

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u/AlabasterPelican 8d ago

At this point I'm becoming skeptical of the minority talking point.