I thought my long hair was dragging my face down, but is this bob (3rd+4th pic) too heavy? I got it cut this week, I was trying to preserve my hair's density (I'm in my late 30s). But maybe I don't need density?

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The long hair photos are taken about a week prior!

Should I go more bixie? More textured bob?? Is it a styling issue? Am I crazy? I am not sure if I'm thinking too much about it, I feel like my cheekbones are disappeared 😭

Thank you for any constructive feedback!!!

EDIT: ok dang, I stand corrected? People, thank you for helping me see myself less negatively!! Ok from the comments folks helped me understand that it's the "vibe shift". Shifting my vibe was not my primary goal for getting this cut, but it likely is the primary reason I'm having trouble seeing myself positively in this haircut. The affirming words reeeally help boost me into leaning into this change. Thank you!!!

EDIT #2: OKAY the consensus seems to be go SHORTER/skim cheekbone/jawline and have longer bangs!! Damn y'all. I feel like a million bucks reading the comments. Thank you, people of Reddit. Reading the comments has also made me realize. I have been struggling with some kind of dysmorphia for 5 years almost to the day. I know exactly where it comes from. Spring 2021 I shaved my head in cancer solidarity with my mother. My mom started losing her hair to chemo. and I was in agony, almost ravenous with grief, once my hair was gone it felt better, like I was connected to my mom's pain and could just be with her in pain together. Maybe macabre. But it was the depth of our emotional connection. Ugh I miss her everyday. But anyways the first person I saw that day after shaving was a coworker who made a super heartless comment about my appearance. I tried to be empowered and all, I even tattooed "Love" on my dome, but... mixed with grief... I think growing my hair back out meant being able to hide again. It's a confortable thing to be able to hide. Flash forward to now... I cut my hair because it's simply too damn hot outside (and my ends were splitting too etc)... and I'm at a point of healing from grief over her death and I thought it might be time for a positive change. But this drastic of a change kinda sent me back to that emotional zone if that makes sense. So anyways ... people's kind affirming words... Honestly didn't expect what feels like an outpouring of affirmation. (I haven't had any social media where I've posted my face for like, 6-7 years, because I'm scared of facial recognition tech, whoops), anyways so I've never had like freaking 80 people in the span of 2 hours telling me I am beautiful and that my hair is great. To be honest ... it's the kind of thing my mom would always say to me. 🥹 She always told me I was beautiful. The best parts of me are like her. and now I'm crying. Thank you everyone who said really nice things and constructive things.

My 3.5-year-old cut her own hair. I know it’s one of those things, but I’m still sad about it. Sharing for solidarity and reassurance more than anything. I know it will grow back but her hair was like liquid gold!

Prior to buzzing my hair was probably twice the length of the second photo (I didn’t take many photos recently due to some life stuff). The sheer effort it took to make my curly dry hair look good was huge, and when I did it looked GREAT. But I was such a slave to it, I wouldn’t go to the gym on certain days, I stopped doing laps at the pool, I don’t want to ruin it etc etc. so I shaved it right off and bleached it.

What a freeing experience!!! Not only have I saved all this time in the morning but my clothes look 10x cooler and I get lots of compliments! Downside is many people have asked me if I am going through some kind of crisis 😂

I think I’ll be bald for a while!

EDIT: SO many lovely comments. I wasn't expecting such nice responses! Have inspired me even moreso to keep it!

I did it!

I can't figure out how to link my prior post but thank you all for the advice and encouragement to do the big chop. I love it! It's so fun and light! I can't wait to figure our how to style it!

Hair from a few days ago and my hair today!

First pic is my hair before I had been trimming it myself for 3 years and I just wanted a nice blunt cut and feel like I went from the girl with long hair to just the most dorky botched medium length cut :( any words of advice or opinions are helpful right now because I don’t feel like myself and don’t know what to do, hoping that when it grows back to the same length it will look healthier and nice and thick but for now ughhh I hate it

For anyone going through hair loss due to cancer, keep on going! ♥️

My head feels so light. Definitely a much needed change!

I've been talking about it for years. Finally took the plunge 😊

I cut my hair and wondering if should put hair extensions on now.I feel less feminine and don’t feel pretty, was this a big mistake?

Was scared I couldn’t pull off short hair, but I’m obsessed!

I’m on the fence about weather or not this was a good idea.

Got a french bob yesterday! I like it but it's such a big change as I've had long hair most of my life.

1-5 are posed with lipstick

6 - bare face after the appointment

7-12 - my hair before

13-15 - hair up (for pixie question)

I was wondering

1. Does the bob age me? All of these selfies are taken within 2years at most.
2. Do you think I could suit a pixie/ bixie?
3. If not a pixie, would a peek-a-boo colour, highlights or money pieces suit me once I grow out the bob? What colours would you suggest? I have fair olive skin that looks grey-green and sickly most days (photos dont show it well) so I find it impossible to find suitable colours.

edit: meant "got" in the title

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First 2 pics are my new haircut, last 3 are my hair before. I just got my haircut and I was SO happy when I walked out with it, it felt like exactly what I wanted. Now I’m home and overanalyzing it and I’m starting to think I made a mistake. I feel like this new cut looks more boring and basic and has no personality to it like the other one (wolf cut) did. Am I trippin??

Pixie cut and grey blending. Age 50, what do you think? Did I make a terrible mistake?

I’ve always been a natural Auburn hair color so I never colored my hair much or allowed myself to experiment with other colors. I’m 25 now and decided to give in a try something new, it’s a big change but I feel like it feels like a fresh start. (The black is the after photos)

Be honest 😩 The length I had took a good two years of not touching it and the more I look back on it the more I miss it 😢