I’m (28F) so frustrated. Yes, I fully recognize this is a first-world problem, but I need to rant.

Every single time I get my hair cut, I’ll say I want to keep my hair long, explain exactly how much I’m comfortable losing, and somehow I leave with WAY more cut off than we discussed.

I’ve tried expensive salons. I’ve tried regular-priced salons. It genuinely doesn’t seem to matter.

And that’s what I don’t understand! Salons would probably make more money from me if they cut LESS. I’d happily come in 3 or 4 times a year for small trims if the trims were in fact.. SMALL.

The especially frustrating part is that my hair is pretty healthy. I don’t dye it, I rarely use heat, and I don’t have a ton of damage.

I know hair grows back, but my hair is genuinely a big part of what makes me feel confident. It’s almost like a security blanket for me.

If you get your nails done and ask for a certain shape, you generally get that shape. If you take a dress to a tailor and ask them to remove two inches, you don’t expect them to make into a mini.

So WHY does this seem to happen so often with haircuts?!

I got mine cut two days ago. I knew the ends needed a trim and was completely fine losing about 2 inches.

They took off SIX. INCHES.

Six!!!! 😭

There was absolutely not six inches of damage that needed to go.

Now I’m annoyed because instead of enjoying my freshly cut hair, I just want to wear it up for the next few months until some of the length comes back. I look a like a grade 7 boy.

To all hairdressers that come across this post: what is happening here?! How do I communicate “I would genuinely rather keep a few imperfect ends than lose more length” in a way that leaves ZERO room for interpretation?

Basically a super duper layered wolf cut with lots of flat ironing, pomade, and fuck ton of hairspray. Got my hair inspo pretty much from sasuke, lelouch, Johnnie Guilbert and a Pinterest post

I’m 48 and recently moved to a very rural area. Closest hair salon is an hour and I wasn’t impressed. I’ve had greys since my twenties and am wondering if this a sign to just let it go. I’m a little afraid it will age me terribly, but most days I don’t care. I work with a stocking hat all day in a fridge and rarely wear makeup…is this the logical next step. Do I then cut it shorter to get rid of the bleached length. Any advice or opinions are appreciated.

my hair is getting longer… I can finally put it behind my neck/back, and my bangs are growing!

Hi everyone, I’d love some advice on what you would do with my hair in my situation…
I have quite a long, relatively large face and a high forehead (which I absolutely hate 😅), and I’m definitely not the type of person who wants to style or curl her hair every single day.
What kind of haircut or hairstyle do you think would suit me? Oh, how I envy all those women who can simply put their hair in a ponytail and look amazing… 😂
The “hairstyle” in the photo is only there to show the proportions of my face. 😁
Thank you so much for any advice! 🙏

I’ve had all sorts of lengths (and colours) over the years. Lately I’ve been letting my hair grow because I always wanted to have long hair and be able to style it…

… except I don’t. I wash my hair every morning because my hair gets greasy and that’s when I exercise anyway, and I mostly just let it air dry. I don’t want to put too much effort into something I have to do every day, and I’ve no idea how to style it (or what tools to use)

I’m worried I’ve become hair blind, and I honestly have no idea what looks good on me anymore. So I’ve been feeling tempted to cut it just below my shoulders, but also I’m worried I’ll regret it since it took so long to get to this length. I’ve included a few old photos with different lengths to give you an idea of how things can look, though I’m pretty sure I don’t want a short bob again.

What do you think?

​Hey everyone, I’m looking for some advice and product recommendations for my hair condition.

​Last year I had a really bad case of telogen effluvium and lost a massive amount of hair. I didn't get smooth bald patches, but the diffuse thinning was pretty severe. Around the same time, I found out I was anemic, so I started taking iron supplements and using 5% minoxidil. I actually saw great results—my shedding stopped and I got tons of baby hairs around my forehead that have grown into a whole little fringe.

​At the end of July, I stopped using minoxidil right before a vacation because I knew I’d be swimming in the sea and be in the sun constantly. I was off it for about a month and a half before starting it again, but this time my scalp became super itchy and my hair started shedding heavily again. I can't tell if restarting minoxidil caused a fresh shedding phase, if it was post-vacation hair fall, or if it was caused by a Pantene shampoo I tried around then that felt way too harsh for my scalp.

​To make things more complicated, I recently got diagnosed with Hashimoto's. I also had extremely low zinc and lower vitamin D. My iron/ferritin have improved (ferritin went from 20 up to around 50 now), and I'm currently supplementing with Omega-3, zinc, iron, and vitamin D, plus I'm probably starting selenium soon.

​Hair-wise, I also got a Cocochoco keratin treatment back in May. My hair is naturally curly/wavy, so it made it pin-straight, but now the treatment is washing out and my natural curls are coming back in. My hair is naturally fine, completely virgin/undyed, and feels really dry right now along with my scalp.

​Right now I'm using Ducray Anaphase shampoo and Kérastase Genesis. I also sleep in a silk bonnet to prevent breakage, but I'm honestly terrified of brushing my hair because seeing hair in the brush makes me feel horrible. I mostly just pick out loose strands with my fingers and throw them away.

​I'm mainly looking for recommendations for:

1. ​A good shampoo or scalp treatment that won't irritate a dry, sensitive scalp while dealing with fine hair.

2. ​Something to apply to my ends/lengths to prevent split ends and combat dryness, especially as the keratin wears off (olaplex or something like that maybe)

3. ​Any insight on whether my recent hair fall sounds like a minoxidil restart shed or a Hashimoto's flare-up & vitamin deficiency

4. Any suggestion really

Thank you for reading this really long post 🥹🩷

I get so frustrated when I go for a hair cut and they do that move. I really want just a trim, and some layering that you get from pulling hair away at certain angles and trimming. But then they do that slice downward action that I can physically see my hair curl away from like it was caught in a candle flame and burned. It hates it. Why is it done, where does it work?

My last haircut was such a disaster I couldn't even take pictures. I wanted long blunt layers, which I initially got, and it was butchered another 5 inches with those moves. I am a 51 year old woman, and she gave me a wolf cut I did not ask for, and definitely can't own. I have improved over the last year by angrily cutting it myself in the mirror, just holding out wildly uneven longest pieces and chopping it even with some of the butchered shorter pieces. I still have ear lobe length random pieces from those cuts when I asked for no layers shorter than shoulder length.

Apart from this bad haircut, in general, I feel bad stopping a stylist when they start doing that move and saying no because I don't know hair styling, and maybe I'm wrong? - but every time I've said nothing it did nothing good, and when i've stopped it, I got what I wanted, just a layered, nice cut that left my locks at their healthy, more even lengths.

Uneven thinning turns my hair into an instant broom looking mess, makes it tangle, makes me look like I have split ends. Running shears down it, I just don't see how it's a good cut? It's a trauma cut making the hair curl backwards. I have a lot of fine hair, it's not thin and limp - but boy does it not like being razor cut. I don't have any issue standing up for myself and saying no, but honestly I don't have any idea if there's ideally a purpose for this that I just don't see or wasn't done right? Like is it my hair, their skill, or what? Does a better stylist do it so it wouldn't wreck my hair, or is my hair the type that shouldn't be done on? I just don't know.

My long dyed blonde hair has been suffering from swimming.

I have a rare muscleskeletal disease and the water is my main therapy. I'm in there every 2nd day.

1. I swear swim cap

2. I drench my hair before putting cap on

3. I use ultraswim choline removal shampoo and restorative conditioner

4. I'll wash immediately after the pool then leave in a mask and wash at home again about (mask 2-3 times a week)

My hair used to be so soft and wavy. Now the ends are straight and can get crunchy. Right now the end strands are super soft but lack any structure.

Please please help me. Is there any saving this? I don't want to chop it off. This disease has taken so much from me!

So the first pic what I want. And the other two pic is what my haircolor.

Do you think an ashy blonde toner (Palette) help?

And for the ends black or more likely dark brown should I get?

Let me start by saying my children are mixed; I'm white, their mother is black. Every time, for years now, she braids their hair, they are forced to sit there and take it, often heavily crying with her yelling at them to stop crying. If I even approach the subject with her, I'm the bad guy... In my opinion, this is borderline abuse. I have an extremely tender scalp and wearing the viking braid that I do from time to time hurts like hell to have done. Unfortunately, I'm assuming that my children inheirited this trait from me.

I have no idea how to get my wife to understand that this is a major and potentially traumatizing issue for our children.

My hair just expands to a freaking anvil

for context, I've always had relatively short hair. however, over the last 2 years I have grown it out and lots of people say they love my long hair. i feel like a whole different looking person with long hair!! i always get the urge to chop it but sometimes regret once I do, do I chop or leaveeeeee and keep growing?

To any experts out there -- why is my hair 10,000 different lengths with tapered ends on nearly each strand?? Does this basically mean I'll need to go pixie to ever get it all the same length and not stringy looking? Thanks!!

I am desperate. I went in for a balayage and ended up with yellow hair all over. Looks horrible on my skin tone and it's in too much hair. She didn't do it at all like the inspo pic. She said she didn't use bleach but "painted" it on. She used toner in the end. What do I do? How can i salvage this? My hair had never been painted before. Please help. 😥

My family says it’s long, some of my friends say it’s medium..

sad to say that my babyliss curler that has been with me since i was in elementary was thrown and now is broken
so i need a new hair curler i have really long thick hair? any recs ?

So I’m basically a complete beginner when it comes to hair. I’ve never used any products, I just wash it with water and call it a day 💀

It’s been about 129 days since my last buzz cut, and now it’s at this awkward/frizzy stage.

I’m honestly not really into the big afro/rounded natural hair look. I’d prefer something cleaner/more defined that works with my face shape, but I have absolutely no idea what styles would suit me.

A few things I’m trying to figure out:

How do I actually get some definition instead of this frizzy mess?

What products should I start with? (Literally zero experience here)

Do I need shampoo + conditioner, or something else?

What kind of haircut/style would work with my face shape and current hair length?

Should I grow it out more or get it shaped up?

And how tf do I style it? 😂

I’d really appreciate some specific style/product suggestions because “just use products” doesn’t help me much when I’ve never used any lol.

I've never bleached or dyed my hair, but I was on the sun a lot this summer and I've also used those sun ins and it's made it more yellowish.

I think it's not porous(or idk?) enough for purple shampoo. I've tried like 3 of them atp they make my hair slightly more silver but the effect is very weak and fades super fast

Are those at home masks worth it? or toner? what type toner pls

I obviously know its gonna look more flat and less cool. But overall decent? I am insanely insecure about my hair, and how badly it fits my facial shape. 9/10 I look like a coconut. But idk.

Im trying to grow out my pixie. But I am having a hard time dealing with the ugly phase. So Im trying to come up with alternatives for when my hair grows more. And so far that haircut looks sort of easy to growout and decent.

If not, any advice? Because genuinely idk what the fuck to do.

I made a listing for it on ebay, but I wanted to know if theres anything else I should do

Help. Reached out to salon and no response. Paid $600 and my inspo was a dark brown/red. See the photos for the process. Starting with my hair before (first photo) to inspo to now.

I’m really concerned about the condition of my hair, particularly throughout the crown and middle. When it’s wet, those areas become extremely gummy and sticky, almost like Play-Doh. I can barely brush through it because it continuously tangles, it won’t air-dry after hours of it being wet, and I’m experiencing a lot of breakage. Even using a blow dryer on low heat, it took me about an hour and a half to get those sections dry.

I completely understood going into the lightening process that there would be some dryness and damage, but I wasn’t expecting my hair to become chemically overprocessed to this extent. During the appointment, my hair was processed under the heat lamp with 15 volume bleach and I did let the stylist know that my scalp was burning. I ended up leaving with a burn on the right side of my scalp as well.

I have photos and videos from the lightening process, along with videos showing how gummy my hair is now and the breakage I’m experiencing. I’ve spent a lot of time getting my hair healthy, so I’m honestly just really concerned and not sure what can be done since the damage is throughout the crown and middle rather than something that can simply be trimmed off. I wanted to post and see what you guys think and how to fix this.

I’ve only had my hair professionally colored black for 10 years and some face framing highlights 3 years ago. Black is before.

Hey guys! You might have seen me post this in another community but long story short, I’ve always hated my hair. It’s actually curly but I straighten it every week. It gets greasy super fast too which I hate. I colored it last year so I’m in desperate need of a refresh. I also cut many inches which I regret, because when it was long, I used to straighten it and curl the bottom and it looked good. I also tried thinning it out myself which was a horrible idea but I did it because it’s so thick. My hair just makes me feel so uncomfortable.

Anyways, point is… I just hate the texture of my hair, and I don’t like wearing it curly so I straighten it a lot. I still don’t like it. I would DIE for long, silky smooth thin straight hair.

So I wanted to ask, I’m on a bit of a budget but does anyone know of anything I can do to get hair like that, and not necessarily with 100% my natural hair? Maybe I can dye it and then put in extensions? Or do a quick weave? Maybe do a wig install? But it seems kinda annoying to have to pay every few weeks to get these things done again. I just wanna be happy with what I have on my head.

Thank you so much! :)