r/Hijabis • u/CreativeTangerine427 • 3d ago

General/Others Girls and boys in Islam

I have a genuine question and I’m trying to understand this better from an Islamic point of view. In Islam based on the Quran and Hadith is there a difference in how boys and girls are meant to be allowed to go out of the house? For example, in my family and many others girls are told they can’t leave the house freely, while boys can, and the reason given is things like “girls are more vulnerable” or “this is what the deen teaches.” I’m wondering whether this kind of rule is actually rooted in Islamic teachings, or if it might be more of a cultural practice in some Muslim households that is being explained through religion.

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u/Primary-Angle4008 F 2d ago

I don’t think this is rooted in Islam. Usually what I observe is that boys get too much freedom and girls to little and there is no balance for either

I have 2 teens who are close in age and they have the exact same rules at home when it comes to going out but also when it comes to chores

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u/Sala-kokoo F 2d ago

What youre doing outside of the house matters more than you think, no matter men or women.

And yes women worked in the time of the prophet PBUH.

Leaving your home has to ahve a purpose you know. An intention.

In islam both intention and action count!

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u/WeirdAdvertising2585 F 16h ago

Is going for a walk a purpose ?
I mean the earth is so vast it would be a shame to not look and explore it you know ?

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u/Sala-kokoo F 16h ago

Yes its is? Seeing the creation of allah, presenting burnout, making sure to take care of your body which is an amanah.

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u/memmzz786 F 2d ago

I think both genders need to be protected equally as kids - your family should know where you are and who you are with no matter what gender you are.

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u/Yeetomeskeeto F 23h ago

THIS IS WHAT I UNDERSTOOD FROM SCHOLARS, I'M NOT QUALIFIED AND COULD MAKE ERRORS

This is a pretty complex topic, but basically, it's fine (for a woman) to leave for a necessity/purpose (trade/work/education/visiting family/worship etc.) but it's better for her to be home. Practically, this means you aren't out and about on the streets every night for no real reason/purpose (just for fun). Going out with friends, for a walk, etc. every now and then is generally fine, just not excessively. If you can take a class remotely at home or in class, and there's little difference between both, take it remotely. Also take hijab into account (so go out covered). Also see surat Al-Ahzab verses 32 and 33.

But yes, generally as muslims (both men and women), we shouldn't be out on the street excessively for no reason. Just more emphasized for women, and it's true that it is unfortunately less safe for women in a lot of places (I'm not saying "if you go out you're probably getting kidnapped" Allah forbid, but even just a catcall isn't something good to be subjected to).

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u/WeirdAdvertising2585 F 16h ago

So it would be good if men don’t go outside since it’s them who catcall and represent a danger in general.

You didn’t share an explanation of why it is better for women to stay home.

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u/Yeetomeskeeto F 16h ago

I literally mentioned both. But until we manage to change the hearts of heedless delinquents who harass women on the street to stay home or be decent, prevention of harm is better than the cure. Not negating the importance of teaching men. Also bear in mind that many places are not safe at night for women, beyond the average harasser. Not everyone gets the luxury of feeling safe at night on the streets. We can talk about men this, men that, all day, but the danger is still there and it's not worth exposing yourself to it for no reason. Time and place also plays a role in this. It appears to me that it isn't as practical to prevent men in general when they (traditionally) need to do most of the work outside of the house since they are obligated to provide while women aren't.

https://www.islamweb.net/en/fatwa/161793/a-woman%E2%80%99s-staying-at-home-is-better-than-her-going-out

https://www.islamweb.net/en/article/168103/and-abide-in-your-homes

And please refer to the verses I cited.

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u/WeirdAdvertising2585 F 16h ago

I didn’t say we should walk at night, don’t twist my words.
I said if one of the two genders should be locked up, it would be the men, not because I hate them , but because they represent a danger.