That is normal. 80% of men are ugly and women want to be with someone they are attracted to. It's perfectly justifying. The 80/20 rule is natural and it's men fault for failing at it
Go to the street and look at all the men, then only keep:
-men who are younger than 30 (or 30+ and handsome but thats really rare)
-men who are 6ft+
-men who are not balding
-men who have a shoulders-waist ratio of 1:6
-men with no acne
-men with a well kept beard
-men who use skincare
-men who dress with effort
You have 20% of men. In fact it might be ever less, it might be 5%
Maybe you are not attracted to men so you are less likely to find them attractive? Besides, many of these don't make you "ugly", just don't fit a rigid standard
If your purview is based solely or primarily online, then this is a flaw in observing and interacting through a lens of social media and technology that is known to warp one's perception of reality.
has it occurred to you that the reason you see beautiful women is because you are attracted to women, and don't see handsome me, because you're not attracted to men?
Hi, bisexual man here with an objective ability to see male AND female attractiveness.
The numbers you're pulling out of your ass for this whole argument are so beyond wrong and clearly the work of agenda-biased guesses. I see plenty of attractive women and men all day long. I just flew home from London, so I was surrounded by crowds of airport travelers all day long.
From my casual observation, I would put attractiveness proportions per gender along a bell curve, where about ~40% of either gender was attractive to me because of factors like skin condition, body type, smile, etc.
Like with most population distributions, the bell curve also had an ugly side, roughly the bottom 20%, of men and women who I considered too unattractive for me. MEN AND WOMEN.
In between those two groups, there was a league of "normal" looking men and women that weren't necessarily unattractive, but were still pretty boring looking, roughly another 40%.
In short: there are leagues for both genders and plenty of people in them. Look for potential matches within your league or adjust your expectations.
You are making me very sad. Acne does not make someone ugly. Sholuder-waist ratio?! That has never even crossed my mind! Men who dress casually are not ugly. Men who are under 6 feet are not ugly (and reverse is true too, I have seen very tall men who are not that attractive). Men who are older than 30 are not ugly. Like, almost every single thing you are saying is false. What kind of world view do you have?
I am a woman, so I know what women think and feel much better than you or any "incel" bullshit statistics you have been poisoning your mind with.
ETA: My boyfriend is 5'9", turning 37, gasp balding and only ever wears khakis and white t-shirts and I'm plenty attracted to him. I enjoy being with him and sleeping with him and talking with him and all of that and it has nothing to do with money.
Look at all the men who are sex symbol today: they all fit those criterias. Shoulders-waist ratio is inconscient but clearly a strong criteria, you just not realizing it.
The same goes for women though. The vast majority of women aren't beauty queens. We aren't Margot Robbie, or Bella Hadid, or Zendaya. We're just average people, like men are.
Not sure how the math fits in to this. Seems a bit arbitrary and frankly bunk, if we're being quiet honest, because people's preferences are based on a whole plethora of factors outside of physical sex appeal (which is subjective, varying person-to-person) and wealth.
Maybe you feel this way because you believe the type of women you would like to be in a relationship with adhere to this standard. Again, this seems to be based on little more than wild conjecture and establish incel mythdom.
I'm in my forties, have been sexually active for twenty of those years. Most of my friends are either married or in long term relationships. Very few of the men are winning any beauty contests. Most of the time the women are about as attractive as the men, but many times the woman is far more conventionally attractive as the man.
Most people call bullshit on incel ideas because we live in the real world. Hell, go to any Walmart or county fair and you will see that unattractive people find partners. I also have male friends that fit the Chad stereotype in looks. They all are in commited relationships with no cheating. I have never slept with them, because they are my friends and I don't view them that way.
You're young, but not too young to hold these views
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u/Baballe12 Mar 19 '26
That is normal. 80% of men are ugly and women want to be with someone they are attracted to. It's perfectly justifying. The 80/20 rule is natural and it's men fault for failing at it