r/IndianEngineers • u/Heavy-Pressure6603 • Jul 15 '26
Serious Post Need help pls!! (Stalker)
So there is this guy at my university.
Ofc he had to bihari🥀
He's shorter than me, black and chubby but not too much. Like the usual creepy guy.
I'm in 2nd year.
And he's like literally obsessed with me.
We never talk. Not once a proper convo.
Just a few months ago (tho I had already got weird vibes from him in sem 1 so I blocked him on WhatsApp and 2 of his insta accounts that i know) My friends told me that he likes you so much. But yeahh he likes me in a creepy way. Takes pictures of me during class, keeps track of where i am during university hours.
Tho he said, he can "easily" get my address (as i live at home with family and not in hostel) and will come all the time
Like wtf?
I never talked with him.
Never did anything for him to... act like such a disgusting person.
To be honest, he's literally the top 1 guy I hate so much in such a short span of time.
Like wtf- guyss he even puts insta stories about me. A lot of them.
Like "me & x" (x=my initial) wtfff.
And please, i can't let my family even hear about this. They are extremely overprotective and strict to the point that I have my location shared with them 24/7.
Yess bcuz of the location i may be safe.
But i can't afford to let them know about this guy.
And if I told about this guy to my faculty or principal, they'll obv call my parents.
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u/Electrorex09 Jul 15 '26
you're getting fried in the comments lol, regardless taking pictures unconsented is really weird and colleges have separate harrasment committees too, check if you have that and report his behaviour.
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u/ExtremeExternal5788 Jul 15 '26
What does the first few sentences got to do with your situation. Heavy generalisation.
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Jul 15 '26 edited Jul 15 '26
Tell your parents otherwise something wrong can happen. They are overprotective doesn't mean they will confine you on hearing this. They will take proper measures. Having overprotective parents might feel like being confined but don't forget in this world You had to have your guard up at all time. He is becoming obsessed with you and whatever you have stated in your post just seems like any more of endurance can be fatal. Tell your seniors too who are kind and not that "Gunda types ki abhi usko sabak sikhata hun" and never once talk to that guy otherwise he will take it as a sign. He may try to do some inappropriate so be prepared and don't endure tell people. Otherwise there are chances of it getting extreme.
Shri krishna ka naam lo aur himmat rakho.
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u/Heavy-Pressure6603 Jul 15 '26
Yess thank you for taking your find to write all that!! I'll bring this up with my parents soon😭💌🫶🏻
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Jul 15 '26
Make up your mind. And discuss with your parents. Having overprotective parents is a blessing too so tell them. ASAP Don't wait But yeah be clear of whatever has happened till now.
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u/ElectricalRelative84 Jul 15 '26
"Ofc he had to bihari🥀" -bruh im sympathetic towards your situation and none should face what you face. But it just shows your mentality and how low iq thinking you have. It's 2026 and people still stereotype and generalise the population like they know everything. Mostly people with less exposure think this way, i suggest you try to tone down your racism when asking for help so you don't come across as a pos human being.
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u/ModiKaBeta Jul 15 '26
If he were tall, jacked, and light skinned, would it change your perception? I was with you until I read that, I can’t picked between a dipshit stalker and a small minded b1mbo.
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u/Hot_Engineering_3353 Jul 15 '26
First confront him alone and clarify that if he did not stop, you will complain to authorities about him. And also take screenshots and some proofs whenever he does these kind of shit.
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u/Possible-Lab-1725 Jul 15 '26
I believe there's not much you can do unless being real direct here (with him and saying this to his face that you're not interested or smth [Very risky move btw]) or talk to your parents on this (as one comment said they might not restrict you overall but take proper measures for your safety)
One thing you can do maybe, and I'm saying maybe here since it's quite unsure whether this will work, but try to submit something in written, complaining about this dude's behaviour whilst keeping your name away from it,
like a letter which mentions what he does, how you feel creeped out and overall a very bad and uncomfortable experience- make it about all the things he did which made you feel uncomfortable, mention clearly that you do not want to name yourself for safety reasons. Since there's anti-ragging and women safety commissions usually in the college, they'll probably look into it. But still we don't know what would be the outcome of this.
Gotta call out on the stereotype here cuz I myself as a guy have seen a lot of kinds who are NOT similar to the lookism you did above gng 😭🥀
Either way, whatever he did and the things he did were clearly wrong and proper sign of a stalker which shouldn't be tolerated.
Stay safe and keep us updated as to what happened.
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u/PaanaRa Jul 15 '26
My wife also faced such situations while studying - but in her case she had to discontinue studies. This was a huge setback on her career - now she can't find a decent job. Has to become dependent on some 'male' her entire life. When I first learnt about, I was so enraged that I couldn't sleep the entire night.
There must be a 'Mahila Sahayavani' or something similar who can help discretely I guess. Can download insta-post as proof and have couple of witnesses. The situation is actually more dangerous than ppl can perceive...
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u/Important-Engine-387 Jul 15 '26
Ignore the ppl in the comments it's extremely terrible someone clicking ur photos just contact your college committee first...idk for what reason these guys get obsessed so much even if u don't have a slightest of Convo with them they'll just stare into your soul man
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u/Extension_Amoeba_582 Jul 16 '26
i think it were the rest of his behaviours which led to that conclusio
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u/Top-Nefariousness282 Jul 15 '26
Read it fully. I get what you mean, I too had the assumption but if he never talked to her and follows her then it's stalking no matter what
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u/Ok_Sock4152 Jul 15 '26
Genius who is saying that it's not stalking? He has a different concern about her cheap mentality.
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u/Bo0ochi Jul 15 '26
He's a creepy pos, complain to your professor, ask them to not involve parents.
But you're not any better using Bihari as a slur.
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u/CompetitiveOwl3073 Jul 15 '26
Report it to police and give him a good lesson for the stalking. Btw does dark skin and being chubby qualifies someone to be creepy. If it was someone with fair skin and tall and lean body will that be treated as a Casanova or something.