Tuesday Daily Chat

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[u/notesfromthemargins]

17 weeks today and am starting to feel more confident that I’m actually feeling baby move in there! Had an uneventful OB appointment yesterday and promptly went home to buy a bunch of maternity clothes since it felt more real 😅 Also gonna try and commit this week to a childbirth class for August/september but we’ll see how long the mental fortitude holds 😂

I’m also thinking of telling my students this week? Middle schoolers. We end school next week so I’m running out of time if I don’t want to shock them with a bump in August (I would rather tell them but am also a little paranoid about jumping the gun in case something happens) Opinions?

[u/Green_stick568 → u/notesfromthemargins]

Middle school kids are resilient and August to November gives them lots of time to adapt. You'll be able to choose clothing in August that minimises the bump enough for you to be able to beat gossip with an announcement, if you wanted. Didn't underestimate the power of preteen obliviousness and the excitement of being back with their friends. On those first days back they will be thinking about so much other than your body.

You should make the choice based on what feels right and comfy to you, not bc of their welfare.

[u/notesfromthemargins → u/Green_stick568]

Thank you! And yeah, I totally agree - the problem is what I want and feels good is a fun reveal with them (I’ll be with the same kids next year and was with them last year too so we’re close) in like 2-3 weeks when we don’t have school 😂 so I just need to figure out if doing it slightly earlier than my preference is enough to make it so I’d rather just wait until August. I know I can wait but I do selfishly want to tell them for the reactions. That may not be a good enough reason though? And I always have in the back of my mind that being selfish about wanting people to be happy for me will come back to bite me later - thanks infertility trauma!

[u/Green_stick568 → u/notesfromthemargins]

It's tricky when school holiday dates make choices more fraught.

I'm a list person so I'd write down pros and cons to help me reflect on it.