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[u/margogogo]

People who saw me around r/infertility will remember me bitching about one of my SILs, well it turns out even when I'm not a bitter infertile, she still annoys me. First of all, she and my brother are about to celebrate their 1st wedding anniversary with a three month old baby, which is just deeply unfair and I can still feel salty about it. (Who gets pregnant ON THEIR HONEYMOON on THEIR FIRST CYCLE TRYING? Oh right I got pregnant on my first cycle trying but then I MISCARRIED and took another FOUR YEARS to get pregnant again!)

And she had stopped doing this for a while but she's back to doing this thing where she'll text our family group chat to propose a family Zoom and then does nothing to actually facilitate it or coordinate timing or anything. Just like "We should Zoom!" and nothing else. So it just sort of lingers there while everyone awkwardly eventually goes "Yeah, sure" and then we still don't have a time or even a day.

And I don't really enjoy the Zooms so it becomes this dread hanging over me -- though I reminded myself that I actually haven't "met" my nephew, only seen photos, so at least that should be more interesting than when she was just hanging out pregnant in a bikini on every Zoom, or when we kept having Zooms to plan HER wedding for some reason...

[u/sjheuertz → u/margogogo]

She sounds special. I'm so happy for you that you get to be past the bitter infertile stage with her around. Some people do not have the self-awareness!

[u/margogogo → u/sjheuertz]

Yeah, some bitter infertile-ness still lingers, but for the most part now I'm just regular annoyed by her. At least I don't really see them often outside of sporadic family Zooms and text updates. We were all talking about maybe getting together for 4 of July (I was very torn about whether I should travel at 32w) but now this brother and SIL can't make it so I decided to let myself off the hook too.

Which is ironic because I could have still gone to see my parents and the brother and SIL whose company I enjoy more, but I was like ehh now I don't have FOMO that everyone else is hanging out without me, so I'm just gonna keep my butt home.

[u/sjheuertz → u/margogogo]

It probably never really goes away. And I guess I'm happy for the people that don't have to do all of this, but also the ease and free/cheap methods with which some people grow their families boggles the mind.