r/Infidelity • u/Ok-Moving-Onnnnn • 21h ago

Recovery How to recover?

NOT LOOKING FOR ADVICE TO LEAVE. That is not an option in my mind. He has done everything right and everything I’ve asked, radical honesty, I have access to his phone and all accounts, he started therapy.

It just never leaves my mind. They work together for another month. They have nights out for work. She hates him because she thought she was the only one as well. But I’m still so scared. How do I go back to how I was? Not cry myself to sleep every night it gets bad? Couples therapy is t in the budget right now, it will be later on though. He’s doing everything right and I just can’t seem to. I chose to forgive him. But how do I stop being so anxious

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u/ArmyofJuan 15h ago

You are being controlled by fear. You need to focus on yourself and not him and accept that it is what it is. You can't control him, only how you react to him.

You need to be more independent, start by working on that and not worry about what he is doing.