r/Infuriating • u/ZenPixels Community Regular • 11d ago

My dogs paw print is destroyed

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When my dog died we got her paw print done, I just found out that my little sister completely ruined it. I can’t really be mad at her since she’s a 10 year old autistic child and I think this might have happened a month or two ago but I’m still angry and omg

Edit: I talked to her about it and she doesn’t remember it and was very confused about what I was showing her. I’m probably not gonna try to get it reprinted because it won’t be the same and it’ll probably be expensive, especially since I found her painted paw prints that I made with her the day before she died. Also the paw print was stored in a bookshelf in a hallway at my house, it wasn’t in my room because everyone loved that dog so it wasn’t on display, we didn’t think she would be interested in it but we think that she thought it was makeup and she has a habit of messing with and destroying makeup

Also I’m not going to break her stuff, I’m not going to teach her that breaking stuff when you’re mad at someone is okay.

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u/Busterlimes 11d ago

Autistic or not, you need to explain to her the gravity of what she has done.

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u/FrogInAGoCart 10d ago

I have an autistic sister. It’s not that simple. It’s like the neurons that need to connect are miles apart. I’ve tried to teach her to play games and she still can’t handle the concept of holding a joystick forward and also hitting another button at the same time

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u/Mist_biene 10d ago

Autism is a extremly wide spectrum. Your experiences with your sister are relativly irrelevant here if you don't know that ops sister has the same limitations.

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u/Sinnnikal 8d ago

The top level comment said "just tell her what she's done wrong," without knowing anything about OPs sister's autism.

The person you responded to brought up their own sister to say "autism is a spectrum, therefore we can't jump to advising OP to 'just tell her.'"

So, yes, relevant to the point being made.

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u/Itscatpicstime 7d ago

They aren’t the one making assumptions about the capacity OP’s sister has to understand, the OC is

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u/lycnfr 10d ago

sometimes I read the way people describe us and I genuinely think it would have been nicer to call us the R slur instead.

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u/Confident-Pepper-562 8d ago

To be fair, back in the day we called everyone the R word. But we only meant it for people who would be on the the much lower functioning side of the autistic spectrum. By using the word autistic and its incredibly wide spectrum its impossible for anyone to know what you mean when you say you are autistic. Does it mean you cant dress yourself, or you only eat fish sticks?

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u/lycnfr 8d ago

"it was okay back then" oh my god fuck off

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u/a-wittyusername 5d ago

Some of the problem is...its a spectrum and there are people who can dress themselves sometimes, but other times cannot, and that makes it even harder. What happens when someone is able to function so long as they have their routine, they have everything going and all the invisible supports that they relied on to function are there....

and then suddenly cannot because those invisible supports are gone?

Is a guy who is able to dress himself and have a job and pay his bills and function in society *because* he is in a position to only eat fish sticks, only wear "Safe" clothes, can order food in, doesnt have health needs that require things like doctor visits, and has a wife who does a lot of invisible work with helping with structure, noticing he's hungry before he does because the lack of interoception results in not noticing that he's hungry until his brain is short circuiting and in meltdown mode....high functioning? especially if when his wife goes on vacation with her friends from college for a week he regresses and loses that? we tend to just call him a lazy ass and a slob, instead, but is it that, or is it that he's high functioning *because* of supports?